Have we "ruined things" for men?
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Have we "ruined things" for men?
| Tue, 08-08-2006 - 11:27am |
I was reading Shy's response to one of rebainmi's posts about men being big babies, scared of rejection, even when they know a woman will say yes.

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Before I elaborate, I just want to reiterate that I wonder if it's just a generational thing - my brother is 26, just to give you an idea of the age group we're talking about.
I had to think about this one for awhile because I wasn't sure about my answer, but this is what I'm thinking right now.
I think that women have changed quite a bit over the last 50 years or so, and some men just can't handle that.
Now I have to respond to your clarification!
That sounds like they're all about the ego boost.
I think you're right, I think times have changed and therefore dating has.
A woman no longer 'needs' to be taken care of. We're going to school, getting good jobs and supporting ourselves. We're waiting longer to start a family. We have choices. It wasn't like I was graduating high school thinking, I need someone to take care of me, I need to find a man and get married.
Now I still like to be taken care of, don't get me wrong, but I can be much more selective and men know that.
Like you said, for every man that's a bastard, there are nine women willing to accept his behavior. We ruin men when we accept their nonsense.
I also cringe when I read these boards and see some of the stuff these women do it makes me shiver. And then we wonder why men are the way they are.
smh.
Anyway, I agree with you 100%
In my opinion, women need to throw away every single one of those stupid self-help books and stop buying the new ones that tell the same things over and over again. Men are from Mars, HJNTIY, Men love Bitches, etc...all that crap is garbage..pure garbage. They are written by people that have no more or less experience in these matters than the average joe. Most of them have issues themselves, including poor self-esteem and relationship problems. Its like the blind leading the blind with those books.
Just be yourself. If you dont know what that is for you, then you have much bigger issues than can be solved by reading a book written by someone else.
And I do think men have it too easy and that women have ruined it. How hard can it be when most of the "women" these days throw themselves at men? Flirting, wearing too revealing clothing, taking them home for a ride and what not? They want every single man in the world to like them, find them beautiful, and want them. Why is having every single man's attention so important? It only takes one to love you.
Come on now. Why should the men try? And the women that DONT do those things get the short end of the stick. They get men expecting a woman to put out, give up and accept.
I dont understand the whole "rape thing" because I dont feel like that around men. It just takes being smart and cautious but not paranoid.
Also I think women to a point have become too picky and too demanding of the male persuasion. Men are not perfect, they have flaws and issues just like we do. To expect a guy to "just get it" or have all the requirements on a list, is just silly. Thats what our girlfriends are for. We hate it when men put certain expectations (including in the looks department) on us, and yet we do it to them. I hear from my friends some of the silliest things as to why they end things with a man. Pick the things you KNOW are deal-breakers and cant live with (abuse, drugs, booze, smoking, bad hygiene) and attempt to work with the other stuff. Obviously if the guy is a total cad, then this wont work. But most men dont have any more or less flaws than we do. Dont accept bad behavior but dont expect the guy to be like you. He wont be. And how boring would it be, if he was??
Men do need to grow a set and take charge. They need to try to find the women that arent so easy and like the challenge of dating/courting her. They may find that she will be worth it. They should learn the power of a simple phone call to set up dates instead of texting/ims. If they want honest good hearted women, then they need to be honest good hearted men. They need to ask their grandfathers how to treat a lady because most of those men really did know how to treat a lady. And women need to stop playing games and just be themselves.
JMHO and a bit of rant...sorry ;)
Most men won't do that. Tell him not to be discouraged and one day he'll find a girl who isn't playing games with him.
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