Have you read "Why Men Love Bitches"?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Have you read "Why Men Love Bitches"?
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Wed, 04-04-2007 - 11:05pm

I'm actually getting into this book...it really lays it out on the line, and shows me that I've been a doormat...ie. The NICE GIRL...and I'm DONE with that!

Have you read it? What are your thoughts?

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Registered: 02-15-2006
Thu, 04-05-2007 - 11:13am
Yes! I read it and I loved it! I found it very insightful, and very true. Basically about how when you allow yourself to be a doormat, or overly nice in a relationship/dating, they have no respect for you, and know they can walk all over you. As soon as you lay down the law, and show that you aren't putting up with any BS, suddenly, they can't get enough of you. It's been very true for me. I've allowed myself to be the doormat girl in the past, but now, with age, wisdom, experience(and a little help from this book), I don't allow it anymore.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-05-2007 - 9:02pm

I read it--and like HJNTIY, I thought it was mostly just common sense, but sometimes it helps to read it in black and white.

However there were some parts that downright annoyed me--the whole idea that you should lie and play games to get your guy to feel needed. That just struck me as totally ridiculous. If I had to do things the tricks she talks about to get a guy to feel needed, I'd think I was with the wrong guy. So I was left with a bad taste in my mouth due to that section of the book.

Sheri