He FLIRTS nonstop..could be married??
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| Mon, 09-04-2006 - 2:22am |
work with this guy at a sports bar who barely speaks any English, and I speak Spanish roughly so we do communicate. We are around the same age and he is always so sweet and helpful and gentlemanlike. He always gives me direct eye contact and even when we are not talking he will just stare straight into my eyes, he also looks back at me when I walk away from a conversation and he turns his head. He touches my back and shoulders a lot and is always joking around and trying to make me laugh. He also says I am "muy bonita" a lot and gets a little flustered if another guy is hugging me or flirting around. My friends have even noticed and tell me he looks at me a lot when I don't notice. He is one of the most genuinely kind people I have ever met and our connection is insane. When I look into his eyes I just feel "it". You know?? Chemistry?? Yah, the "sparks" and connection and everything. The only problem besides him only speaking Spanish is that I heard he could be married. This is from an unreliable source and he doesn't wear a ring which means nothing, I know. He sure doesn't act married, by the way he acts, but I'm going to treat him as he is. I am a Christian gal so it would be against my morals and beliefs to cheat with a married man, so I would never DO it or consider it. Also, I am saving myself until marriage, so no I'm not interested in a sexual relationship with this guy. I just genuinely care about him..but I know that nothing can happen. Why does he do these things??! Thanks for any help/advice and God bless!!
Also..am I horrible for feeling attracted to him??

You should be very cautious of a man who knows exactly what to say to get you all flustered, yet does absolutely nothing more than flirt.
he says you are pretty then when you are friendly with other men he gets bent out of shape. BE CAREFUL...sounds like a control freak to me. MY first hubby was like that.
Then we dated, married and it got worse over time. HE would even hit the men in the bars if they even spoke to me. But if he wanted to have sex with a mans gf...hed buddy up to him and sic them on me. I couldnt win no matter what. I was in a whirlwind of his jealousy if i chose a man to talk to but if he talked to the man first and befriended him first it was ok for me to be around them. SIC MAN i had. Thats why he is my X.
anyway...a man who has such behavior can be possessive.
IS he Married. FIND OUT...does he have a faded ring area around his ring finger?
Does he have children from a "past" relationship? Does he let you call him at his home?
Show up unannounced at his home one evening you both are off work. See who answers the door and if he is single he will not hesitate to invite you in. If he says why are you hear and comes out on the terrace...HES GOT A HONEY. OH, also...How does a person ACT MARRIED? THe women whom my then hubby cheated on me with...i met them all eventually ...told me they never expected him to be married. There is no certain way a person acts married. Either you are married or are not, period.
YOU can feel it with the right sexual chemistry for sure. I did with the man i was with for 5 years after i was divorced. I dumped him last year because that is all we had...our relationship was based on our sex chemistry instead of our minds and agreements(which were mostly his decisions). I had moved in with him and really found out his true colors and it took me 3 years to leave him.
RELIGION: its against many peoples believes and religion to cheat with married people. IT STILL HAPPENS!!!! people hide it all the time...cross country love affairs are common among business people. Heck, your next door neighbor could be cheating on his wife with your aunt across town, would you ever suspect or know? Married people who cheat are only after something they ain't gettin at home...attention and support.
and they never change...cheaters could divorce, remarry and continue cheating.
IF you are saving yourself for marriage...KUDOS to you. but be careful, men who are flirtatious with you and get jealous of you taking to other men...will finigal their way into getting you sexually. Even if that means date/aquaintance rape. Some men just do not think a woman is a woman unless she puts out and that is sad.
HE does many of the things you describe and may not have mentioned to us here because he is after you for one reason...SEX, control, possession. He equates your attention to him as someone who wants to be with him for more than just platonic friendship and he sounds like a man who may force you to fight for your virginal boundaries.
I have had the experience of being with the most genuine and kind guys, all of which have turned out to be abusive, controling, jealous men who think they own the woman they are with...even if the woman clearly states They have no interest in dating the man.
Good luck and blessings to you.
Be smart, be careful, be strong and do not back down from your boundaries.