Is he hitting on me? (long post, sorry!)
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|Wed, 12-12-2012 - 11:48pm|
I feel so dumb. I am recently separated and have not dated in 10 years. I used to be pretty good at this! I think a slightly older man (he's 51, I'm 33) from work has been flirting with me, but don't want to look like an idiot if he has just been being nice. We are not exactly equals in the workplace, but he is not in charge of evaluating me or anything.
For the past 3 years, he has asked me a lot of personal questions about myself. We've had somewhat of a "big brother-little sister" relationship going for the past couple of years. He jokes around with me a lot and plays pranks on me. A year ago he asked me to give him my cell phone so he could put his phone number in it. He has not given his number to any of my other coworkers. He always makes a point of having a brief conversation with me whenever he sees me at work, no matter how busy he is. He compliments me often. We text outside of work. We've gone to coffee a couple of times. Recently we were at a social function and he kept texting me to come find him so I could meet his kids and siblings. He mentioned multiple times the next day that he was so disappointed I didn't get a chance to meet them.
That all seems pretty obvious that he likes me, right? Here's where it gets confusing. I kind of think I might be stuck in the "friend zone." He asks me to watch football with him (I'm a big college football fan) and he does things like belch in front of me, punches me in the arm, you know...things he might do with a guy friend. We've been alone together and he has never tried to make a move on me, even when we were sitting very close. Granted, this has generally occurred at work.
I'm having fun having a little bit of a crush on this guy, but can't tell if he's interested in taking things a bit further. How can I go about finding out now that I've been his "best work buddy" for the past couple of years? If he doesn't actually like me, things at work could get really awkward. No one at my work knows I am now separated, except him. He does not know any of the details. Maybe I should just enjoy this for what it is, a crush on a guy who is safe because he doesn't reciprocate. I think a small part of me is just hoping he's attracted to me too because it's been so long since I've felt desired.