is he interested?

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Registered: 05-26-2003
is he interested?
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Mon, 05-26-2003 - 7:28pm
so if you're around a guy and he does the following... would you think he's interested?

- tells you he missed you the day you weren't in the office

- finds ways to spend time you regardless where your sitting when he bartends

- plays around flicking water at you or straw wrappers (remind anyone of 5th grade romances, lol)

-sings along with the band when the line "you look wonderful tonight " comes up and looks at you while doing it

-watches you as much as he can while he works.. but when talking to you and your friends won't look you in the eye.

-maintains the occasional eye contact for at least 3-5 seconds, especially when you're not sitting at the bar and you catch him watching.

-you walk into the bar and as is your usual habit , go to your friends first for a few minutes.. you look up and he's got your beer ready for you (ok so thats just good bartending, yet i never see him do it for anyone else)

now the interesting thing is that for several of these weeks he knew i was dating someone.. now that i am single again (and i think he's figured that out) the risk is suddenly there.. my friends are convinced he's interested.. but we're now more uncomfortable around each other. we still flirt.. and manage the occasional looks.. but now its at a standstill, or at least this is my perception.

would you agree he's interested? what casual move would you make next? or would you just wait it out for a bit?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 05-26-2003 - 8:00pm
I think he's definitely attracted to you, but whether he's interested in dating you I can't tell. Do you work together? If you do, I'd say to keep it just to the occasional flirt and don't persue. Men should wear signs on their heads so we can tell this stuff!!

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Mon, 05-26-2003 - 8:22pm
no, we don;t work together. i know him partly from the bar he works in (part time job), partly from being part of a group i hang out with, and partly because he's an occasional patient at the office i work in (chiropractic). i agree that they should wear signs, would make our job so much less confusing
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Tue, 05-27-2003 - 10:40am
All of these are good signs. For me - I have a bright line rule- until he asks me out on a proper date, in advance, just the two of us - I have no expectations of interest - and even then, unless we go out 4-6 times at least I have no expectations of any serious interest.
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Tue, 05-27-2003 - 10:43am
I don't think it is confusing at all - when they are interested, they ask us out - if they are interested prior to that time - who cares - since they're not acting on the interest. The other stuff is not confusing - a little high schoolish but not confusing. The sign - is always obvious "Hi, 'Deena' - would you like to catch a movie this weekend?" etc. my approach happens to save me a lot of second guessing, aggravation and heartache.