He said it...I think by accident.

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Registered: 05-06-2008
He said it...I think by accident.
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Tue, 04-03-2012 - 6:34pm

I've been dating a guy for a few months now. I've known him for about 12 yrs, and 2 yrs ago we tried the "friends with benefits" thing, but it only lasted a few weeks, being that I was newly single and not ready. We're both divorced, both have kids, and there's a significant age difference. I'm in my 30s, and he's 15-20 yrs older than me. (I'm not being too specific, just in case) The other night I spent the night at his house, and as we were going to bed, he whispered something like "Good night babe, get some sleep, I love you" I didn't acknowldge it, because we had just been talking a few days earlier that neither of us really feel 'love' yet. A friend of mine said he was testing the waters, but I think it was more out of habit, like maybe he says it to his kids. I do the "night baby, get a good sleep, I love you" kind of all in one breath when I tuck my kids in.

What do you think? Accident out of habit, or testing the waters? It's been 4 days, so I think calling attention to it at this point would be lame.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Thu, 04-05-2012 - 9:12pm

I'm voting 100% for it being a "force of habit" comment, and I bet he's secretly praying you wont' bring it up.

My daugher is a hostess at a swanky restaurant. She seated some very nice regulars last week and as she was leaving their tables, was mortified when she heard herself say, "I love you guys!"

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Thu, 04-05-2012 - 12:53pm
That's what I was thinking. And it was whispered, because I was trying to fall asleep, so he was probably thinking, "oh crap." lol
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Wed, 04-04-2012 - 12:37pm
I wouldn't see the harm in saying..."Um, hey did I hear you say I love you the other night?" However, as you indicated, it has been a few days. I could see doing it the next day...plus, if you did that you'd have to be ready for your response and if you don't feel the same way, it could get awkward. I'd just let it go for now...
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Registered: 07-16-2001
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 9:18pm
Hmm...maybe he was just going along with what you said about not feeling it yet. Either way, I'd hope he wouldn't expect you to say it back given you told him you weren't feeling it.