He wants to get me pregnant
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|Sat, 08-23-2014 - 6:25pm|
I've known him since February. We technically did not start dating until June. We started having sex this month and have had sex about 4 different times. We are both divorced, 35+, he has 3 sons. His oldest son from when he was 17 and his last 2 sons are from his previous marriage. Why does it seem like condoms are always a battle with most men. They either don't want to wear them or sometimes you have to check, check, and re-check to make sure they don't take them off.
The first time we had sex I had nearly put the condom on him myself. He kept trying to say he'd pull out. I don't believe in the pull out method. Last weekend, we took our first trip together to the beach. We have a high amount of chemistry and I extremely turned on by him. We had sex the night before, he used a condom and I watched him put it on. Afterwards, we fell asleep. Early that morning, I woke up to him putting himself inside me. I didn't realize he hadn't put a condom on until I started to notice him about to climax and asked if he put a condom on and told him to pull out. He didn't pull out.
I don't have any kids and although I have always contemplated having kids. It is way too premature for he and I have to be bringing a child into this world. I asked him why he'd just do that and he said he loved me and wanted a future with me. I want a future with him too, but I don't want to start out things out by him being a baby father. He said he wants to work towards marriage, but my thing is why not get married first and then have a baby. Now I'm scared to have sex with him, because I will have to force him to wear a condom or watch him to make sure he doesn't try to do a repeat of last weekend.
He keeps talking about how we would have a beautiful baby. A baby can't be put back once it's made. I couldn't figure out how many days (some sites say 10-15 days and some say 12-17 days) it was after my period to ensure I wasn't approaching my fertility window, but now I'm not even sure since my period was a bit off last time. I care about him, but now sex with him makes me worry that each time I'll have to think about him intentionally getting me pregnant. I'm not on the pill as they make me nauseous. The crazy part is that because I am 35+ and so is he, my mom is like "go ahead and get pregnant, you're not getting any younger". No, I'm not young, but at the same time I don't want to just bring a baby into the world with this man and not be completely sure about the future. I apologize if I have posted this in the wrong forum, but I am not sure where to post this.