He won't leave me alone

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2004
He won't leave me alone
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Fri, 01-06-2006 - 12:57pm
Okay, I just need to vent here. I broke up with a guy I dated only two months. I posted a couple of times about it(i.e. condom issue). Since we broke up, he was been trying to contact me. I ignored it at first, but eventually repsponded, because I knew he would not leave me alone otherwise. We actually had a heart to heart and talked about some things, but it ended up making me feel worse. I know I had done some things in the relationship, too. And it made me question whether I had done the right thing. But I am realizing that he is very manipulative by trying to make me feel bad, among blamming me for everything. Still. He is still blamming me for everything. I know that if I remained in the relationship, whenever we were to have problems, he would blame me for them. So I know I am way better off. But why does it feel so bad? Why do I miss him?? I don't want to be back with him. But it just stinks. I am not feeling so confident about dating anymore and I am hoping it is just temporary. Thanks goodness it is Friday.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2003
Fri, 01-06-2006 - 1:02pm

Cut off all contact with him.

When he calls, let it ring, don't respond to his emails, texts or IMs. If you broke up with him and don't want to get back together, then there is no reason to continue to speak to him and especially if he's only making you feel bad.

Block him out!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2004
Sat, 01-07-2006 - 3:25pm
Also, don't allow him to make you question the dating scene, get back out there when you are ready and knock em' dead!