Heartbroken – The final chapter

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Heartbroken – The final chapter
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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 4:30am

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsinglelovi&msg=6460.1

For anyone who has been following this story I can finally reveal how it ends. I saw her at the gym on Tuesday and she asked me if I had received her text. Apparently she did reply but it never got to me so I suppose I must concede that text messages can and do get lost in the ether. She never told me what she wrote but explained that she needed to be with a friend who had just split up with her b/f, a true story. The following day I got a text from her. It was an invitation to celebrate her birthday, Thursday, Friday or both, she even ended it with XX’s. I thought this was encouraging but I was seriously mistaken.

She spent most of the night dancing with someone she had worked with in her previous job, sometimes they got so close their lips almost touched. We left the club and got a bite to eat and by that time there were only the three of us remaining but I sensed they wanted to be alone. I was slowly escorted to a taxi and as it pulled away I looked back and saw they were kissing and making their way back to his house. My heart sank. I have tickets to tonight’s “celebration” and I assured her I would be attending but I really don't want to go now.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 5:10am

Bugger hal....stupid girls...thats really sad that you had to witness that but at least you know now right??

but we still love you!!! I hope you find someone new

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Edited 4/28/2006 5:11 am ET by rubyshoes03

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 7:47am

That sucks, Hal.

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 8:18am
Wow I am really sorry to hear that Hal. That really does suck. And how rude on top of it.
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 9:12am

Sorry, gotta disagree with the other posters.

You never showed her any interest by actually asking her out - you know, with a phone call, or in person. Like a gentleman. Like a grown up.

So, she invited you to her birthday party. It wasn't a date. She had no obligation to leave with you.

Maybe you've learned a lesson now.

He who hesitates is lost.


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Registered: 09-01-2004
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 9:45am
I just want to echo Shy's statements, Hal. I am sorry that happened and this girl behaved in a manner that is insensitive to say the least. I know that this doesn't help how you feel now, but maybe it's for the best if that is how she behaved. You deserve someone who would treat you with more respect.
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 9:51am
I agree with you.
But Hal, giving you the benefit. Weren't you hesitant about asking her out because you were not sure of her interest to begin with? Maybe she just was not showing you clear signs that she was interested because maybe she wasn't in that way? Maybe she only saw you as a friend and I think deep down, you may have picked up on that, hence your hesitatin to ask her out.
Sometimes, it's best to follow your own gut instinct. Remember, you are in the situation and you can feel and see the situation, as we cannot. We can only offer you advice but you have to go with your gut and I think deep down your gut was telling you that she probably did not feel a romantic spark towards you.
I do have sympathy because I know how you feel and I'm sorry you went through this but I think you had to go through this to make you stronger and perhaps wiser in choosing who you set your sights on next.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 10:17am
While I am sorry to hear the news, I agree with Sisfox that you could have done more. Your effort is something that you have control of, so concentrate on that. Good luck.
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 11:45am

It's always a risk to put yourself out there and show an interest in someone - but I think it's worth the risk. I also think this situation probably taught you some valuable lessons for when you do meet Ms. Right.

I'm sorry this didn't work out, but I think it's great that you took the risk and gave it a shot. Keep that up, because eventually it will work with someone - someone who will treat you with more respect than she did.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 12:36pm

Regardless of any "should, coulda" behavior, it still stinks and is a difficult thing to go through. I think the sensitivilty lies with how Hal is feeling, which is down and out. It's all a learning experience to move on from and hopefully do differently in the future.

Hal, I am very sorry! I know this stinks, but as most all have stated, you are better off. Any SMART girl would have known that guys who want to spend time with them, have some sort of feelings for them. If she doesn't, then you are better off! You can now move on to find somebody who is better deserving of your time and greatness!!!

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Registered: 02-02-2006
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 1:12pm

Hi, Hal.

sorry to hear that this situation didn't turn out the way you would have liked. As tallgirl stated, there are lessons here for when you do meet the right person. Her actions speak volumes, and I hope you don't see this as *your* loss because it clearly isn't.

As a side note, my situation with my neighbor didn't turn out quite the way I would have liked either. Oh well!! There will always be others!

Take care!

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