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| Tue, 07-18-2006 - 4:40pm |
Ok, met this guy online. Fantastic guy. Totally into me. Asked me to be exclusive within 2 weeks. Asked me to fly home with him to meet his parents. Wants to take me to his friends' wedding and introduce me to all of his friends. He's perfect. Except that he still had his online dating profile up. So I set up a fake profile to see if he was still dating girls from the site. He set up a date with my fake girl yesterday. Check this out:
Email to my friend:
So, I asked him about Match.com. He said that he reads the emails, but never responds to them. He said that he shouldn't have a profile any more and that he would take it down. He didn't want to have sex this morning because his penis was sore. I said I noticed last night that it was chaffed and asked why. He said too much masturbation. I did not ask if there was another girl - but keep reading. I asked about the panties I found pretty much right out in the open in his bedroom. He said that he wasn't sure whose they were but they must have been there for a while. I said that seems odd because I know his maid comes regularly. We've been together almost 2 monhts. He had no explanation. I asked if he'd been with anyone since we'd decided to be exclusive. He said no. I said he seemed like he was mad that I was asking these questions. HE SAID no, I had a right to ask those questions because I'M HIS GIRLFRIEND. I said I believed him and that I just needed to ask and I hoped he understood. I said I hope things wouldn't be weird because of those conversations and asked "we're fine, right?" he said yes. He walked me out to my car and I said, "I just want you to know that I like you very much." He said "I like you very much too." I said, "And I think we have great chemistry." HE SAID, "I THINK WE HAVE GREAT CHEMISTRY." He is planning to take me to his friend's wedding this weekend and wants me to meet his friends. Remember, this is the set-up.
Then I get into the office (the SAME morning, as in, immediately after the above conversation with me) and he's already emailed fake-girl. Here's what he said:
Hey, can we make it a little earlier tonite? I'm still jet-lagged and I was exhausted at 6 last night (still 10 hours ahead). Maybe 7:00?
Billy
Also, here's the item:
To: Fake Girl:
To answer your questions, I've met about 15 people in person over the course of about 8 months (I was on last year for about 4 months and I went back on about 4 months ago -- I'll explain tomorrow). All have been very nice but just NO CHEMISTRY. And they never look like their pictures! I HAVE NOT DATED ANYONE I'VE MET so no success stories yet. And you?
Billy
Then, to be even more contradictory, he took down his profile, just like he told me he would!!!
SO, HERE'S THE QUESTION - How to handle this "date" he has tonight. Show up and confront him? Let him think he got stood up? If I do that, do I confront him (which includes admitting I was the fake girl) or do I just let it go - is this his one last date? I've been guilty of that. I need a strategy. HELP!!

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Pulling up a chair, bringing out the pop corn and propping my feet up for the responses to this one.
You obviously caught a rat and he reeks! He reeks!
Here's essentially your problem.
OH.MY.GOD
I say show up at the date, reveal that you are fake girl, that you caught his behind then promptly pour whatever drink that's on the table over his head.
Then let him know its over and make your dramatic exit.
Yeah, tell him what your wearing, but let him get there first so you can corner him.
If you get there first, there is a slight chance he may figure out its you and either try one last minute lie to explain the coincidence of bumping into you or it'll give him a split second to bail and get out of there.
I've had to confront an ex with this same kind of cheating so I've been there. Me and the other girl both confronted him after setting him up and got him in a corner...in his own apartment! It was ugly but it had to be done.
Just tell him that although he was expecting fake girl, it turned out to be yiu. Tell him off, where to go and how to get there.
Pour drink over head and storm out.
Let us know what happens!!!
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