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HELP!
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Sat, 11-16-2013 - 6:08pm

My mother bumped into an old high school/church friend from way on back, like 20 years back.  His parents go to church with mine and he hits and misses.  He told her he was going to call me.  Um, well he just did, three times, with about ten minutes between each call.  The last time he called, he finally left a message . . . uhhhh . . . the first thing he said was:  "If you're there please pick up."  Who does that?  I haven't seen or heard from this guy in 20 years.  That's the kind of thing you do when you're dating or calling a close friend, am I wrong?  I swear, from the tone in his voice, I almost wondered if my parents had been in some horrible accident or something . . . he went on to say that he just wanted to catch up and to give him a call.  Aside from the three calls in a row, and the "pick up the phone" thing, we have NOTHING in common.  I know this because I helped my mom set up a facebook account last year and I saw his feed on her wall.  I don't want to not return his call because I don't want to be rude.  However, I am terrified he's going to ask me to dinner or something.  I am not interested in rekindling a (very brief) friendship from 20 years ago.  What in the hell do I do?  I'm thinking I could just oblige if he wants to get together, but then I think well if I do it once, what if he keeps asking?  LOL.  I'm the kind of girl who likes to go grab a beer at a bar.  He's tightly wound, uber religious and a flamboyant republican.  I know I'm stereotyping and am probably coming off as not being very nice but I'm a realist.  We have nada in common. 

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Registered: 06-06-2006
In reply to: cfk_3
Mon, 11-18-2013 - 10:02am
Cfk, sorry but i honestly dont understand where the problem is here?? Why dont you just ignore his calls?? If the man in question is absolutely not your cup of tea (or your beer as we say here in Germany :) ?? Why waste mental energy on someone you barely know and dont have any interest in?? Spare it for the ones you DO find appealing!!

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