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| Tue, 10-11-2005 - 8:41am |
Hi there,
I'm new to the board and wondered if anyone can help me.
I met this guy 4 months ago only a month after breaking up with my ex. My ex was a control freak and very possesive and cheated on me. I finally had the chance to break free from him so did.
Anyway met the new guy and he is lovely. Everything my ex wasn't, we click so much and have the most fun and have been seeing each other regulary ever since. When we first met we both said we didn't want a relationship (he'd broken up from his first ever gf last xmas) and wanted some fun.
I didn't think we would become so close, he mails, texts everyday all day and it's great to have someone to have a laugh with and chat to that really gets me.
Anyway about a month ago I was still getting abusive calls from my ex and it was really screwing my head up. I ended up pushing the new guy away by being really arsy and saying look it's been 3 months we either get it together properly or I'm not doing this anymore.
He totally backed off after this and he'd still contact me every day but there was no flirting anymore. Last week I told him everything about my ex and said I was so sorry for being horrible to him etc etc and that was why I had been so horrible as the ex wouldn't take no for an answer that I wouldn't get back with him.
Me and the new guy have gotten really close again and we're back to speaking everyday all day. The thing is I'm about to give up as he never asks me out and I get the feeling he only wants me for sex. This would be fine if he only ever contacted me for sex but he feels the need to speak to me all day everyday so really we are having a relationship. I haven't slept with him for a month because I don't want to feel used but he's still talking to me.
The thing is I know if I mention it to him he'll say he doesn't want a relationship (yes I know when I guy says this it means with you!) but I don't know if I should just walk away and ignore him or stay on good terms as we get on so so well it'd be a shame to waste it. Shall I just back off and tell him I only want to be friends with him and that's it?
Any advice would be great
Thanks
Angelic xx

Good luck.
What's in it for you? To me it sounds like a shallow relationship. I agree with the other posters.
Check out Mr. Answer Man board & post there to get their opinions too.
Good luck & keep coming back :)
Are you continuing to date others?