help! how do you get their attention??
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| Sat, 11-04-2006 - 11:37pm |
ok, so I'm the type of person that is really fun and outgoing, but can be very shy at times as well - for example, when it comes to meeting new guys. I can carry out conversations and all that, I just get shy when it comes to the point of asking them out! I wish I could have the confidence, and the right words to get a guys attention when I find one that seems worth a try.
For example, the other day my friend and I were shopping for new winter jackets in a store, and there was a male employee that came up to us to help. This guy was really friendly and talkative(and good looking!!) He flirted a little with us, and I could tell that there was interest between us three. I walked out of the store happy because I just bought a new jacket, and also happy because I met a cute guy! But also dissapointed because i wish i could have initiated some kind cue to him that I was interested.
I plan on going back to this store, to buy some other things... If I see him again, what do I do or say to him to get his attention? What's a good way to grab a guy's attention without being tacky or pushy? What kind of questions/conversations would you bring up to lead you in the right direction?
Thanks for your help!

I think that in a situation like that where you only have a few seconds to decide if he's interested and if he's available, you're not in the best place to ask someone out.
I agree whole-heartedly with cl-shywon.
Once he is aware of your interest in him, he has the option of acting on it or not acting on it.
You've done what you're supposed to do, in the case of showing your interest to him.
Now, he should do his part.
I think it's better for the guy to act (or not act) once interest has been shown. This way, you're absolutely sure he's interested in YOU.
Good luck!
:)
thanks for your replies :)
that's about all I could think of as well... I don't plan on actually asking him out on the spot of course, I think I would be jumping the gun in doing that!
There really isn't much you can do to show a guy you're interested other than smile and be friendly and open and maybe flirty.
If he's not biting, then there's a reason. Shy is not the reason.
As for the guy in the store appearing to be interested, I think you probably mistook his friendliness as interest whereas all he was probably doing was showing good customer service so you guys would come back and keep the store in business. People in service positions have to show an interest in customers and make them feel welcome so they'll keep coming back. It's not personal to them, it's business.