Help me from Jealousy Monster(Ego stroking)

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Help me from Jealousy Monster(Ego stroking)
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Sun, 04-15-2012 - 11:30am

I am sorry but I never thought I was the jealous type but so far sis has been seeing that new guy.. Its been about three dates and although he is a geek of sorts and not her type at all I am jealous.. I never thought I was the jealous type but when I look at her I dont see anyone that great or attractive or anything.. I know I know I am going to hell for saying t his about her but I just dont get it.

I did hear her on the phone last night with him and I do know that she does have a way of stroking a guy's ego. Maybe that is the key to love..... Just being in constant state of ego stroking and you can get any man.. I

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 04-15-2012 - 3:15pm

Yes; I think I probably would have gone out with him but I

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Registered: 04-17-2008
Sun, 04-15-2012 - 3:24pm
I wondered how that was going with your sister. I swear, there is NO rhyme or reason. I have given up.
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Registered: 04-17-2008
Sun, 04-15-2012 - 3:29pm

Free, I do understand how you feel, because I feel the same, with the work, etc.

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Registered: 09-12-2005
Sun, 04-15-2012 - 5:04pm

I know that it sucks. That's how I used to feel when me and my sister were younger. She's younger than me and had one boyfriend after another and she started having them way before me. Actually, now is the first time since she's 16 that she's actually single (she's almost 33), but men still invite her eventhough she decided not to date for some time.

Try not to think about it, it's not going to help you in any way.

The funny thing that always surprised my sister is that her exes always got along well with me (read: liked me, because I was nicer and certainly for other reasons), so you never know....lol

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 04-15-2012 - 8:49pm

I can see why you're upset because if you look at it objectively it would seem as though he has more in common w/ you--but maybe he didn't realize that the 2 of you had all those things in common and he is just focusing on some superficial thing and after he gets to know her better, he'll realize that he & your sis aren't right for each other.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Sun, 04-15-2012 - 11:45pm

YES!!! It is ALL about stroking the male ego, not to mention the male...

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Registered: 04-17-2012
Tue, 04-17-2012 - 5:51am

Be happy for your sister. You love her, and I'm sure you want the best for her. Jealousy and envy are very unattractive characteristics, and you won't get a guy by harboring those

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 1:32am

Hi Lolli, welcome to the board.

Free's not really a jealous person.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 7:03am

Yes Lollipop.. Marina is right. I couldnt have said it better myself.

I am not jealous of sis and I want the best for her. I was sorta venting.

Sure tell us about yourself

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Registered: 02-08-2011
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 10:00am
I still don't understand how you're single, Free, as I have read these boards! This time's example is seeing you be offered a version of the battle cry of the terminally single with a suggestion that you're better than him and wouldn't want him anyway. Yet you didn't take that easy bait.