help me please!

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Registered: 06-17-2006
help me please!
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Sat, 06-17-2006 - 10:47pm
so there is this guy that just recently wants to be "friends with benifits"..and he wants to be my "true first". i lost my virginaty at a party a while back and i regret it more than anything!! and he thinks that itll make up for hard times. i dont know what to do...i love him to death..but he doesnt want anything serious! just FUN TIMES..i dont wanna lose that friendship tho..or regret not doing it. soo..any help would be much appreciated! thanks!
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Sat, 06-17-2006 - 11:31pm

Don't do it.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 5:22am

You can't be a "friend with benefits" if you love the person. It will never work. If he is a TRUE friend he wouldn't have put you in such an awkward dilemma. You won't regret NOT doing "it", you will only regret doing "it".

He isn't into you and only wants sex and it *will NOT* change his feelings and make him fall in love with you, trust me. If he doesn't want anything serious there is absolutely nothing you can do but find someone else, sorry.

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Registered: 06-19-2006
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 2:50am
I really hope you do not choose to do this. When you have feelings for someone who does not have them in return, having sex with them is a VERY bad idea. Men do not react to sex emotionally as women do. And him wanting to be your "true first" im sorry to say is just a sad excuse to get want he wants....in your pants. Find a guy who wants you for more than your body, hes out there!