Help, was I used by my date??!

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Registered: 09-07-2004
Help, was I used by my date??!
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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 6:12pm

Hello-

Well I don't want to over analyze this situation too much, but I love hearing all of your opinions, so here it goes.

Last night I went on a date with a guy I have dated in the past many times. The date went really well, saw a movie and then after drove over to the beach and started making out. Well things went a little farther then expected, no sex, just oral. Once it was over, everything started getting weird and awkward. I don't know if it was me, but he seemed to suddenly shut himself off to me. Like more cold in a way. My instinct kept telling me this isn't good and I started to feel used. Once he dropped me off, he gave a little kiss and stammered for words to say to me. Finally he said, "I'll talk to you later."
I was really disappointed. Maybe I have too high of expectations and I know most of you will say, well your just gonna have to wait and see if he calls. I am actually not counting on him calling at all, but I hated the way i felt when i came home. Totally used, that's all i kept thinking. Maybe it is a insecurity i have, but it just felt like something was wrong after the whole fore play thing.

What do you all think, was it a bad choice to have oral sex? IS this normal for guys to do this? Do you think he will call?

Thanks!

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 07-02-2006 - 10:49pm

To be honest, I always feel awkward after having my mouth in such places, but that's just me.