He's interested, what should I do?

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Registered: 03-16-2007
He's interested, what should I do?
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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 4:09am

Okay....I know I JUST posted about a guy who I went on a date with the other night who I was not attracted to but got along with GREAT! Well now here's the thing...

I just went to defensive driving tonight and there was this HOT guy there. He is tall, buff, and goes to the university I just graduated from. I didn't talk to him, but it was a comedy defensive driving class so the facilitator was talking to all of us and that is how I got this information. ANYWAYS.....he kept looking at me and SMILING at me the whole night. When we left for the evening he was parked behind me and we both kept checking each other out on the way to our cars. Tomorrow we have one more class. I'm wondering if he is just holding off because we have one more class and he can ask me out then??? I don't think he's shy because he kept smiling at me EVERY time I looked at him. Should I wait for him to approach me? What if he doesn't? I mean, I gave him AMPLE reason to think I was interested and all he did was look at me and smile and keep checking to see if I was looking on the way to my car?!?!?! How should I approach him? Is he a player? He didn't seem to be checking any other girls out and there were some other cute girls there. He seems like an athletic but laid back kinda guy, he got a ticket for running a stop sign on campus on his bike! And his car had all these "Watch for cyclists" stickers on it. So I really think he is laid back and cool. In my past I've been very forward with guys but for some reason he makes me nervous. He gave me this BIG smile after I talked to the host and I just smiled back and was so nervous afterwards that I was just fidgeting. Should I make a move or see what he does????

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 4:58pm

Oh, no, no....to jarhead, whom I also misunderstood. Just forget I ever wrote that post! :)

And thanks...likewise, I think sometimes I need to be grounded a little bit...though relationships are the one thing I do tend to get a little skeptical/cynical about. :) Mostly when it directly relates to myself or my friends, though. I'm a little overprotective, haha.

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Registered: 03-16-2007
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 2:35am
I'm not sure if I totally understood your post. However, I will say that your question is the original question I asked. I DON'T know if I can fall in love with a guy I'm not that attracted to. THat is why I was asking others for their experiences. That may seem superficial, but honestly attraction is a big part of being with someone. Maybe I feel this way because I'm young and inexperienced or something. I'm 23 and I was in a long term relationship with a very attractive guy who treated me wonderfully! I am upset at how everyone seems to think attractive men are all dogs. This isn't the case. I have now spent time with guy one and two. I'm much more physically attracted to guy number two but more personality/emotionally attracted to guy number one (but not by too much). I guess I just wanted to say that I don't think being attractive makes someone a bad person or someone less inclined to have a relationship. I also don't think the moment you date someone means you shouldn't date anyone else. You have to get to know people, otherwise your unfairly investing too much in them and possibly expecting too much.
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Registered: 01-26-2006
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 11:26am

>>That may seem superficial, but honestly attraction is a big part of being with someone. Maybe I feel this way because I'm young and inexperienced or something. I'm 23 and I was in a long term relationship with a very attractive guy who treated me wonderfully! I am upset at how everyone seems to think attractive men are all dogs.

First of all, I don't think all attractive men are dogs...to me it's about how you present yourself (partially). If there's a good looking guy strutting around like he's the king of everything, I'm more likely to think he's a dog, haha. :) But good looks alone? Nah.

And I'm also 23 (well, tomorrow...had to do the switchover sometime :) ), but I don't think that's the reason you feel that way...attraction is important to me, too, but the guys I'm attracted to aren't necessarily the stereotypical super good looking, model-type men.

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