He's Jealous, but I Can't Help It!

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Registered: 03-07-2007
He's Jealous, but I Can't Help It!
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Mon, 08-13-2007 - 10:13am

I have a biggest thing for the sweetest, smartest guy. We are in the "talking" stage of things.... He is unlike the other guys, he knows me- gets me beyond my outside appearance. The one thing he does not get is that I am not interested in any other guys. I've been getting alot of unwanted attention from other guys who are attracted to me lately. When we are hanging out with friends, there are always guys coming after me... I don't know how to act, I dont want to be a bitch so I kindly conversate with them trying to make it 100% visible that I have no interest.

The last time we hung out with friends, he went off to play pool while I was swarmed with date offers... I was so frustrated at that moment- all I wanted to do was talk to him and hang out with my friends, BUT I end up surrounded by every other guy in the room. I walked out. He wasnt getting it. I know I dont go after guys who get alot of female attention because I get jealous... He probably is the same way! I think because of this I am not his type, that he is intimidated and thinks he is not able to keep up. I haven't talked to him since that night. I've tried to establish communication, but he seems to have made up his mind. He can't compete but he doesnt need to! He is such an awesome, amazing guy. One you don't want to lose. I wish there was some way I could get this through to him, but I think it is too late.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 10:15am

In the end, you can't make someone who is insecure secure, no matter how much building up you do.

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Registered: 03-07-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 10:26am
Is there a way I can make this easier or prevent this from happening in the future? This always happens to me! Maybe because I have always been attracted to geeky guys that aren't the most worldly when it comes to women! :) My girlfriend says her husband still gets the same way about her. That it is a never ending cycle of guys being intimidated by one another.
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Registered: 07-06-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 11:15am
I'm jealous ... I wish I had all the men swarming around me like a pack of flies.