He's Just Not That Into You

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He's Just Not That Into You
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Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:49pm

Has anyone read this book? It is fantastic and has totally helped me to understand men and not to make excuses or second guess their bad behavior.

There is also a female companion called, Face, it you're not that into him either.

Get them both used on Amazon for a few bucks. Definately worth it.

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Registered: 12-03-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 10:52pm
I've read it and agree it can prevent a lot of heartbreaks.
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Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:21pm

I really did like HJNTIY and It's Called a Breakup Because its Broken, funny, insightful, real advice.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 6:32am

I read "He's Just Not..." but not the other one. I loved this book. I wish I had read it when I was 17 (and took it to heart). It would have saved me a lot of time.

I also loved the Sex and the City episode that it came from. It all just really changed the way I look at the whole "Why didn't he call?" thing.

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 8:52am

I live by the book and it definitely helped me to let go of guys that aren't worth it.

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Registered: 05-01-2007
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 9:03am

I read both books, and I agree with what they both have to say.
Why waste time worrying about a guy who can't be bothered? And why would you want to be with someone who wasn't crazy about you? Life's too short!

Never make someone a priority who is only willing to make you an option.

~Heather~

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 9:15am

"Never make someone a priority who is only willing to make you an option."

Exactly! Exactly. And that is why I broke up with my last dude. I was crazy about him but he wasn't feeling the same way.

Now I just need to get over my feelings. But it was reading that book that gave me the signs to look for and to let go when a guy clearly isn't into you. Its that simple.

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Registered: 05-01-2007
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 9:29am
I hear you! I learned that lesson the hard way, but I think I grew as person from the experience.
It was just a matter of realizing that I spent all my time worried about him being ok, and he wouldn't have noticed if I disappeared off the planet until something went wrong is his world, and then I was supposed to be the Rock of Gibraltar.
One way relationships only work for the person on the receiving end.

~Heather~

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 9:47am

"One way relationships only work for the person on the receiving end."

Yes, so true. And I actually needed to hear that again as I've been thinking heavily of my former beau and wishing I would have left that door open. I know I did the right thing in ending something that was only beneficial to him but the heart still wants a peice of him. But what you wrote was another reminder of why we can't be together; it was turning one-sided, with me doing all the work, while he was probably out scoping for other women and having his own fun. Meanwhile, I spent most weekends without him, and missing him. That is unfair to me.

I just have to keep reminding myself til it sticks that I deserve so much better.

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 9:50am

I have that book He's just not that into you, I really liked it, and it was a quick and to the point read too. It not only helped me see how men can blow women off (and how women shouldn't take it) The author's descriptions also made me see how many platonic female friendships I have had, where I was blown off, by women friends.

Another plus to this He's just not that into you book, I liked it that he has a woman's take on things, the woman who sort of co-wrote it with him.

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 10:46am

>>Exactly! Exactly. And that is why I broke up with my last dude. I was crazy about him but he wasn't feeling the same way.

It's the worst feeling, isn't it?

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