He's not into me... right?
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| Fri, 10-28-2005 - 7:43am |
I have a very complicated situation. I feel as though I have jumped the gun and already fallen for someone -- and I shouldn't have.
Here is the situation: I met this guy and really like him.
Sounds great unnnnttiillll... you bring his ex into the picture. He and his ex broke up a month ago and she has not been able to let him go. He is a really sweet guy, always telling me how he hates hurting people and how he wants to still be a part of her life because he is worried that she will go down the wrong path without some guidance. She doesn't have much family so he feels like he is the only one for her to rely on.
This creates a problem because I don't think he is ready to move on into a relationship with me because of her... and she just happens to be a friend of mine.
He says that he is not ready for a relationship - which I can understand and respect but... I don't know exactly what to do with myself. I already have feelings!
So my question is: What do I do now?
(I'm very scared of the response this will bring. I hate hearing things that I don't want to hear.)

It's great that he cares so much that he wants her to be okay, but she's not his responsibility.
It sounds like it's too soon after this breakup for him to move on to another relationship. He obviously still has some feeling for this other girl and while that's not alltogether terrible, it doesn't make him 100% available for you. He may have a million wonderful qualities that are making you feel great about him, but one of the most important qualities he needs to have in order to be in a real relationship is availability. I just don't think he's there yet. You may have to do some letting go in order to differentiate between what you are truly feeling and what you're hoping. There's nothing wrong with how you feel but it's too early to make a decision based on those feelings.