hi i need some help
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| Sun, 04-29-2007 - 6:38pm |
hi! i was browsing the net and after reading some of the messages on here i decided to join. So i have 2 dilemmas you guys and I am really looking for some advice or some words... anything will be appreciated. ok so here it goes....
My first dilemma is that I cannot seem to find girls to go out and chill with. I recently just moved back home after being away for 5 years in college and at this age its just soo hard to establish relationships with females because most have sheltered themselves to a group of girls that they've bonded with and trust so its pretty hard to find some girls to go to a lounge with or just go for a cup of coffee... how should i go about introducing myself to gain some female friends???
Which brings me to my second issue... i have NO luck when it comes to meeting guys or getting into a relationship. I think part of it has to do with the fact that all i do is go to work and hit the gym and come home but nonetheless its still an issue for me. I cannot seem to find a guy that can fulfill the whole package( i either find a guy with the mentality aspect but not soo in the physical or vice versa) and I know that may be a little caddy but we all know we need a little form of physical attraction for things to grow... so basically my dilemma is that I am fed up of living the single life and feel the emotional need to have someone... whether it is simply to kick it at home and watch some movies in pjs with popcorn or to go out on a dinner... what should i do??
OOoo... btw, thanks for taking the time to read this and trying to help me out...

I think that if it's something you really want, be that female friendships or finding a nice guy to date, you have to set time aside for it. I would love to drop some weight but if I look at it as, I'm just too busy to plan out healthy meals and exercise, it's never gonna happen.
Meeting people? Just be nice, really. Be as friendly as you can possibly be while at work, running errands, at the gym, try to make conversation with people. A tough thing of for my is trying to keep a positive attitude both in my mind and on my face. I stress easily ; ) The friendships I have now are ones I have nurtured since my early twenties and people I have met either at work or indirectly through work.
Other than that, charities are a good way to meet people and you can do some good for human kind while you are at it.
Finding female friends after you get out of school is almost as hard as dating. It comes up on this board fairly often.
For me, I joined some social groups in town, and have met some friends that way. Not share-all-my-secrets best friends, but people to hang out with. More importantly, people who get me out of the house occasionally. I also attend business networking events that I know attract younger people.
I have a tendency to just get into my routine -- work, gym, walk the dog, fix dinner, work around the house, repeat. It's very easy for me to forget to be social, and then it will hit me out of the blue nowhere how lonely I am or how much I just want to go out to dinner or see a concert. Having one or two go-to friends really helps.
If nobody is around, I just go by myself. :)
AJ, enjoying life with C.