Him playing hard to get?

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Registered: 03-12-2006
Him playing hard to get?
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Sun, 03-12-2006 - 12:23pm

I have a major crush on this guy in me college class. Heres a lil history about whats been going on: He stares at me constantly in class, he is outspoken with every other girl but me, when I come around he becomes shy. He always pass lil love taps when we bump into each other. We always catch each others gaze from across the room, Sometimes he tries to hold the gaze and stare into my eyes......or often he just makes silly faces or flashes a giant grin. Another thing is that he always pops around the places that I go on campus, or we spot each other outta a crowd from far away.

Lately I have been getting really mixed messages though. Okay, he is one of the hot guys in class so I understand the need to keep things like having a crush on each other low profile..........just to avoid the drama of people in our bussiness. After having this long time crush, I finally got the nerve to hang out with him one evening. He seemed excited that we were hanging out, we talked about class, highschool, he made every attempt to make me laugh, and he was actually really funny. Anyhow I never got to tell him how I really felt, but I felt a good vibe.

Lately, he has not been so flirty, and the eye contact has lessened. But yesterday on our last day of school before spring break, he was extra flirty. He made some cute excuse to hold my hand, was very talkative with me and everything. In class he did the weirdess thing too, he called me over to him to take my picture with his camera phone, he has never called me over to him before. okay all that flirting and everything went on, then after class in the parking lot he calls me by the wrong name, and I think it was on purpose! He can remember precise details we talked about the day we hung out, like he remembers the highschool I said I went to, the year I gratuated, and the city I live in. He actually thought it was funny too. Is he playing hard to get? If he doesnt actually like me, then why stare at me all the time, why flirt and make attempts to touch me, and stuff. Someone please give me advice.

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Registered: 09-28-2005
Fri, 03-24-2006 - 3:29pm
Hal, I'm over it okay? I figured out that the guy isn't interested or else he would have asked me out already. None of the other guys I work with, whom I am friends with, acted this way towards me so I mistakenly (as you suggest) took this as his way of showing interest. All guys are different in the way they show interest. I stuck my neck out there and got shot down and will never do that again. My point in this whole matter was that even though guys may flirt or act really friendly, doesn't always mean they want to take you out. My best friend flirts with guys all the time just to see if she can get them and then she blows them off. She just likes the thrill of the hunt. Some people just like to flirt and it doesn't mean anything and I realize that. Yeah, maybe I was hoping for something more. So what? Is there anything wrong with that? I have done some soul searching about why he might not want to ask me out. Maybe he doesn't want to date a divorced person, or a woman with a young child, or someone he works with, or someone that is 8 years older than him. Maybe I'm just not his type. Hey, I'm not so far gone that I have stars in my eyes and I'm sitting around pineing for this guy. I figured it out and now I'm moving on....
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Fri, 03-24-2006 - 6:47pm

I'm sorry.

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Fri, 03-24-2006 - 6:51pm

Thank you.

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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 10:07am
I agree again!
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