Hmm...

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Hmm...
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Sat, 10-25-2003 - 2:34am

After writing my last post, I realized I've been getting a string of "lets be friends with benefits" from guys who are NOT my friends. Nor are they interested in being my "friend" w/o the sex. Is this the new line these days? What is that but a fling?


I've been out on 6 dates with that guy from the bar (the one who chased me for 2 months before I finally gave him my #). Last week, he calls me at 6pm to say "I'm at X pub if you want to meet me down here"...gee, how classy of him! Guess he doesn't remember the whole 'I'm an environmentalist so I dont' have a car conversation'...or the 'I won't drive a car w/you if you've been drinking' disagreement on the last date...so I figure NEXT! But tonight there is a message on my machine (again, he calls the NIGHT OF)...saying "Hi its Pat"...no biggee, right? WRONG!!!!! All this time, he has told me his name is BOB!


And thats only the quarter of it. So if you ever felt jealous of all my dating...reread posts like these, every week I could write one ;-)


Go.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cl_goroque
Sat, 10-25-2003 - 8:30am
I've never felt jealous about anyone's volume of dating - and no one should be jealous of mine for similar reasons ;-). It is when someone finds true mutual love, gets married and has a healthy baby - of course I am happy too, especially about a healthy baby, but jealousy is definitely an emotion.

Go, do you feel you've gotten off track - pursuing and allowing yourself to be pursued by men where marriage and a family certainly is not their goals - has your goal changed in the last year? Sometimes I get so caught up in all the dating issues that I lose sight of my goal.

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Registered: 08-07-2003
In reply to: cl_goroque
Sat, 10-25-2003 - 9:45am
ohmigosh - he lied about his name?! For SIX dates? Not that it'd be right to do that for even one date - but SIX?! RUN RUN RUN!!!

ginger

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In reply to: cl_goroque
Sat, 10-25-2003 - 12:13pm

Hey, I'm not jealous of your dating, I'm jealous of the attention you get!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cl_goroque
Sat, 10-25-2003 - 12:50pm

You may be right. I know it sounds stupid - but my heart is kind of broken right now. So I might be dating just as a distration to keep my mind off it. I know the goal...and I do ask whether they are interested in marriage (someday, not to me necessarily). Or it could be the thought that I'm missing out by being so "strict" is making me say "what the heck"...


I have a date with a REALLY cute, nice, sweet baby tonight :) My godson ;-) That should cheer me up...


Go.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cl_goroque
Sat, 10-25-2003 - 1:02pm
You will have a great time tonight - hope he's a yankee fan. ;-) I am glad I'm so strict - makes me feel good about myself and I never for more than a minute believe I am missing out by only pursuing relationships with men who are enthusiastic about me, marriage and family (and who I am enthusiastic about)

My new - actually - reconfirmed - standard for online dating - if the first conversation doesn't leave me wanting to meet him ASAP I move on - don't have time for mediocrity - I will have a second conversation only if the call was cut short. That works for me - because I see the difference when I click enough to want to meet them ASAP - I have never met a man in person who I was lukewarm about on the phone where we clicked in person.

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Registered: 07-05-2003
In reply to: cl_goroque
Sat, 10-25-2003 - 10:30pm
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Umm...Yeah, would you mind? Hearing about your bad dates might make me feel better about not getting any dates at all. ;-). I really do wonder sometimes which scenario is more disappointing/frustrating.

jhoover

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