Hmmmm

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Registered: 10-23-2005
Hmmmm
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Sun, 10-23-2005 - 11:22pm

After you read this post, I'm certain you'll find how dumb I am with "relationships"! LOL....Bear w/ me! :) ;) :)

There's an ex of mine and we were very , very much in love , however, I think it was a wrong time for us to be together at that time. And , we broke up. We kept in touch on and off over years and we last talked around 2 years ago.

He got my pager address from somebody and paged me that following morning on Friday. I replied back quickly (I was surprised and happy!) I haven't heard anything from him since that morning.

Huh! Why do exs do that? What does that mean?

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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: reds74
Mon, 10-24-2005 - 9:13am
Perhaps he was trying to renew your relationship and was not encouraged by the response he got from you. WHat kind of a response did you give? Did you show interest? Did you ask how he was doing or what was going on with him - did you says things that would generate dialog? Iri
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Registered: 10-23-2005
In reply to: reds74
Mon, 10-24-2005 - 11:45am

Hi,

Hmm, like I said the last time we talked was 2 years ago so ... He and my mother works @ the same university so they got a chance to talk. He asked about me and wanted to contact me again. So mom gave it to him. Said he paged me immediately.

I replied back with "HIiiiii!!!!!!!! :) Am good! You?" Maybe that sounded too "much" , I don't know. But that's me, he should know I'm always friendly.

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Registered: 02-05-2005
In reply to: reds74
Thu, 10-27-2005 - 7:38pm
i think no matter what you should move on...dont go backwards after you ahve moved forward for so long now. you will only regret it. I wish you well and hope you can muster up the nerve to just let him go. if it did not work the first time it wont work now. i know because my tried a reconciliation with my x hubby and it lasted 18 months when i finally realized he and i will never be able to make a relationship betweeen us work. we were not compatible except for the sex. come to think of it my current relationship i jsut ended...the same thing...i tried 3 times with him and the only thing was the sex compatibility. nothin else was there. so just buck up and take the loss with a smile.
good luck.
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Registered: 10-23-2005
In reply to: reds74
Thu, 10-27-2005 - 10:27pm

Hi,

To be honest with you, that's really not the issue for me. I will always care for him as a friend, we were always able to be friends. Yeah, we lost contact a couple of times but we would always cross paths somehow. But, to think or wonder about whether he loves me, whether he wants me back , blah, blah... No. That's not what I'm doing.

Actually, was thinking of his behavior and why he'd contact me then not reply back. Just a moment of me itching my head , laughing and wondering "what's up with those kind of people?!" You know? :) A

Thanks for your advice though.. That was kind!