holidays coming

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Registered: 04-25-2004
holidays coming
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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 5:22pm
It's getting to that time of year again that I'm starting to dread more and more year by year. The holidays. They're starting to feel like my annual visit to the gyno ;-)
Today I was talking to my mother about thanksgiving and she seemed more blah than usual about it. I think she's just bored with it because me and my sister aren't married with kids and unlike her friends whose kids are all married and having kids, she doesn't have much to look foward to, ie, seeing grandchildren, buying gifts for them, cooking for them. I sort of feel bad for her but it isn't like any of us asked for this life. What can I do. I'm sure she feels shafted and all. I wish it were different. In certain ways i'm more sad for her and my father than I am for myself. They're listening to everyone else talk about weddings and new babies and visiting grandkids and they're stuck with two grown daughters who aren't even in relationships. It sounds so pitiful it makes me want to spend thanksgiving in Greece and christmas in Iran or some other muslim country just so I don't have to think about the holidays.
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Registered: 05-19-2003
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 11:17am

I'm also dreading the holidays and can't wait for them to be over already.

I feel like what's the point; my family has dwindled down to merely 5 people who don't really want to spend anytime together. We'll have a quick mealm exchange gifts and I'll be back home, at 8pm them night, by myself and wishing I had more family, friends or someone I can spend the evening with.

The holidays are just one big fat reminder of how wack my family is and just how alone I really am.

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 12:40pm

Aw, you guys are making me feel sad!

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 7:08pm

I actually love the holidays, single or not.

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Registered: 04-25-2004
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 7:14pm
That's the saving grace though, that at least one sister has kids and that you have more siblings. Imagine if it was just you or you and just one sibling, no nieces and nephews... that's my situation and it doesn't feel so cheerful all the time. My parents are probably tired of the same old same old... families are supposed to grow, not shrink down to a bunch of miserable middle-aged adults and elderly people.
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Registered: 02-29-2004
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 8:17pm
The holidays? They've been stressful for me, since I was 15 years old. I felt like there's too much to deal with to really be happy. Plus you know that the holiday spirit is lost. There aren't enough nice people to go around. And I hate Walmart. I'm dreading next month's shopping list. There are too many things I could say that I fear about that time of year, but I don't want to bring myself down. I just came back from a wonderful vacation and I'm trying to avoid the humdrum of normal life for as long as I can.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Tue, 11-07-2006 - 8:58am
I, too, love the holidays because it's one of the few times a year I get to spend time with everyone in