honest opinion?

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Registered: 09-11-2007
honest opinion?
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Fri, 10-12-2007 - 9:41am

Oh boy, first I just want to say that I WOULD NOT want to break up a guy and his gf and that's not what this is about. But yesterday this guy I know (aquaintance really, not a good friend but someone I have known for a long time) reposted a thing on MySpace saying "someone on your friends list wants to sleep with u or date u, repost this and find out who...if you want to date me or sleep with me, send me a msg." It said "you must repost this whether you are single, in a relationship, married, etc". Just a silly thing he reposted. But I have had an attraction to him for a long time so I wrote "if you were single, heck yeah" and a smiley face. No big deal. This AM I go on MySpace and he wrote "oh yeah, we would be HOT! Thanks".

What do u think. Was he being nice or flirting or more? I feel bad because he has a serious gf and I prob. shouldn't have sent that msg, then again he was kind of silly posting that thing in the first place. I figured it would just be like an ego boost, this guy is not the most attractive but to me he is. The only bad thing is, I didn't think it through and I see him alot so I hate that it could feel weird now (esp with his gf around). I tend to think about stuff too much and 1 min I feel like it was harmless flirtation the next I feel bad or like he was kind of inappropriate (which I admit is a good feeling but I wouldn't want a guy who cheats so there is no pt to that). Oh and also, about 1 yr ago when he was 1st with his gf, he would come to my former work when I was working and flirt with me. But then he got more serious with her and I changed jobs, I admit I think about him some times and wonder if they are still together (they are) because I would totally date/sleep with him if not. Yikes, what do u think ladies (and men).

Jilly

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 10:26am
You're reading way to much into it.
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Registered: 07-13-2007
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 2:36pm

Your reply was a complement, he has a since of humor and he said thanks. He had some fun and joked about with a friend. Let it go.


Think about it, if he did pursue it . . that would

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 3:00pm

I don't see how my response was SO inappropriate, I said "IF" he was single and I put a smiley face letting him know I wasn't being super serious.

Maybe I don't get it.

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 3:01pm
I think you are totally right on this! Thanks!
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Registered: 05-19-2003
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 4:22pm
Chain letter. Harmless fun. And probably no real intent there. I know several dudes with girlfriends who are flirty like that, but never stray. It is Myspace after all!
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Registered: 06-11-2007
Sat, 10-13-2007 - 11:45am

I think the fact you are reading into this too much AND posted all that stuff about you thinking he's attractive, talking about how he was flirting with you, etc.


Having said that....I think you did fuel the fire by writing back and saying what you did.

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Sat, 10-13-2007 - 10:40pm

Yes I admit it was an ego boost. Honestly I am very into him, and tonight I heard that he and his gf may be having probs and actually if that's true I would have no prob dating him when they split up.

Jilly

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Registered: 06-11-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 1:15pm
Hopefully if you two hook up and he does something like this to another girl on Myspace or whatever, you will still consider it "harmless flirting".