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| Wed, 09-05-2007 - 11:13pm |
Do you think that a lot of men make this assumption?
| Wed, 09-05-2007 - 11:13pm |
Do you think that a lot of men make this assumption?
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You know what's funny?
I recently had this dicussion with a guy I met...he's from NJ, move to South Orange County CA, he told me 'just because they look like they do, doesn't mean they are good in bed'.
Carrie
Ahh, but we brunettes are seen as mysterious with an edge...so it's a trade-off. One I'm happy to make. :)
I'm also completely kidding, I don't judge anyone by their hair color....unless, of course, it's fake yellow-blonde, haha. :)
Anyway, I used to get upset that people said Boston/city women in general aren't friendly (or as friendly) and I suppose the same stereotype goes for brunettes (at least according to some), so I must be seen as REALLY unfriendly. :) The truth is, I may not SEEM friendly when I'm walking down the street with my earphones in, minding my own business. I DON'T talk to anyone and everyone and I DON'T talk to every guy I meet in a bar (why do men seem to feel entitled to this?? If I'm not interested, I'm not going to waste either of our time). One guy sat down at my table when my friend had gotten up and just STARED at me. I knew he was some creepy older guy, but I looked up anyway and he STILL didn't say anything. Then he got all pissy that I wasn't being friendly when my friend came back. Uh, HELLO. You're being ridiculously rude! Try TALKING to me instead of just staring at me. Anyway, the point being that I actually AM friendly if you're nice to me.
Ok, that was a massive tangent. It's what happens when I'm bored at work. :) And I used to dye my hair red, too, until people started asking me all the time if I dyed my hair when it was its natural color. My stylist at the time actually asked me and told me I was lucky because it was a color that a lot of people ask for (I have a LOT of red in it...my mom's your typical Irish/English redhead). So I stopped dying it until now...I could use a change.
From our experience (and this is generally, speaking not set in stone) the "hotter" the guy, the less entertaining the entertainment. Most of these gentlemen had the mind set of "you should be honored to be near me." Heaven forbid mentioning a new technique to one of them.
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I tend to agree with this on the female side as well. I call it arrogance, and in some people it “is” overt arrogance. For many however it might be better to say they simply have so many people "attracted to them" on a one dimensional scale that they never fully develop the 3 dimensional skills others simple have to. (-:
In fairness, we like to pick on "hot" people. What we are really complaining about is a shallow personality that when attached to a "hot" body manifests itself in a way that allows them to manipulate people to get what they want. The same personality in a ugly body might manipulate people by being a "victim".
Whatever, I am not a shrink, but in the end being born good looking is like being born rich. Many never see what they have, only what they can get with it. It can easily create a sense of entitlement when everything is automatic. So for example in sex they do feel "you are privileged" to be with them. The experience is more “raw”, less personal. They confuse volume with quality. Remove entitlement from a person and they work just a bit harder to be sure there partners "want to come back". They “earn” the privilege. (-:
To shy’s point, hard to see all that from across the room. I think in general, be it men or women .. . out of the gate attraction to strangers is visual by and large. No rocket science. I am not sure men think past looks at that point, do women? Across the room, never met, spoken or had any contact, attraction to strangers, it is all the information you have. So be it looks, inviting behavior, wealth, whatever it is you find “hot” . .. it is the “outward visual signs” you see first.
>>One guy sat down at my table when my friend had gotten up and just STARED at me. I knew he was some creepy older guy .....Uh, HELLO. You're being ridiculously rude! <<
Aww. Don't be so hard on the guy. He was probably struck by and in awe of your delicate, ethereal beauty :) I am sure he wanted to say something but just couldn't think of anything. Happens to all of us. Happened to ME(!) too when I was younger. I would stutter and stammer, try to make foolish small talk and end up making both of us uncomfortable. Today of course it's very different. I can engage any woman for as long as I want to. The problem is I don't *meet* too many women to engage. Well, other than these stupid dating sites :)
I remember a long time ago(seems like a long time but actually not THAT long :) )when I was 19 or 20 and with my 'first love'. We were in a park one evening, sitting, holding hands and talking about God knows what. It was late fall or probably early winter and the air felt crisp and cold in our faces. Suddenly a middle aged scraggly looking guy came out of nowhere and sat on a bench directly across from us. He just sat there and said nothing and kept staring at us. Well actually at her to be specific. Now she was attractive, at least enough for most passers by to turn their heads once and she was used to it, but even then there is only so much staring one can take. So after a while when she got really uncomfortable we got up and left. But his face still remains seared in my mind. He looked tired, dejected , worn out, as if he had had a hard life and just about given up. The sort of face that makes a powerful image in black & white.
Smile,
Deirdre
Me neither. When I'm having sex, I'm totally enjoying it and in the moment, I'm not remotely thinking about anything except for my orgasm. LOL oh yeah and his too...I thought I would throw that in there too didn't want you to think I was selfish.
I am totally with you, if the guy I am getting naked with doesn't know that I'm not perfect than he's deluded so I'm certainly not worried about it. HAHA!
Edited 9/7/2007 6:15 pm ET by lovinhockey17
Smile,
Deirdre
I don't think the sex with a "hot chick " is necessarily "better," but I think that for some guys, it *seems* better because they're so focused on banging a "hottie." If that makes sense. I'm not saying all hot chicks are bad in bed, but I do believe that how someone looks does not necessarily indicate his/her bedroom abilities.
I also find that sex tends to get better when you're with the same person for a while, because you get to know what eachother likes, and when you get closer and fall in love, the sex is just better, anyway. And by that point, for me anyway, it's beyond just what someone looks like.
I get what you're saying.
>>but I think that for some guys, it *seems* better because they're so focused on banging a "hottie." If that makes sense.<<
Makes total sense. The point is to sow our seeds into the fittest, healthiest and most attractive females (aka "hottest") who will make the best babies. Of course we do this at a subconscious level without realizing why we are doing it. Not just men, given a choice women will also seek out the fittest and most attractive males they can find. Women's "bedroom skill" is irrelevant to men in this regard since men do the active work and do not *need* women's participation for their pleasure. It helps, but isn't necessary.
Edited 9/7/2007 10:38 pm ET by capegirardeau
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