Hotness fades...quickly

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Hotness fades...quickly
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Thu, 10-04-2007 - 7:12pm

Okay, okay...I know we hate that word.

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Thu, 10-04-2007 - 7:35pm

If I look in the mirror too long or analyze my photo too long, I definitely do that. I think "my teeth don't line up right" "where'd that new age spot come from?" "why can't my hair have more volume?" "geez, my nose is ugly"

On the flip side, when I put on a cute outfit and FEEL cute, I notice when guys give me a second glance walking down the street. I also notice the annoyed sneers from women, tee hee, another telltale sign that you look good. :)

I try to hang onto that feeling. Obviously, my appearance is not making anyone else disgusted - so why should I be so hard on myself? Sure, I will never look like a perfectly airbrushed, retouched supermodel photo -- but I'm not half bad.

Plus, I'm just kinda tired of worrying about it. I think how you feel is more important. (Oh, and it is SO HARD to feel cute when you're cramping, bloated and stressed

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Thu, 10-04-2007 - 7:56pm
There are days when I feel like I'm looking pretty good (hair and makeup look great), then I go to put on a pair of jeans and they're too tight and suddenly looking good fades into "I'm
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Thu, 10-04-2007 - 9:14pm

Yes! Tight jeans do the same thing to me.

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Fri, 10-05-2007 - 2:09pm

I can totally relate to gaining and losing the same weight over and over again!

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Fri, 10-05-2007 - 5:01pm

I can honestly say that at age 40, I have never felt "hotter". That is because I am taking dance and it makes you fit and slim

Soliel
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Fri, 10-05-2007 - 5:28pm

>>That is because I am taking dance and it makes you fit and slim

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Fri, 10-05-2007 - 5:41pm

Yes!

Soliel
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Fri, 10-05-2007 - 6:35pm

Oh, you know all about her, I'm sure.


She's the "friend" who snaps at me, calls me "baby" (like she does with her children, not like an old man might), is condescending, and who obsesses about how "fat" she was when she was my size.

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Fri, 10-05-2007 - 9:03pm
If your picture is accurate you are a "head turner" and should be proud of your appearance.
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Fri, 10-05-2007 - 9:28pm
Yeah, I see how that would get to you, especially because you just can't get away from her. But it does sound like she's got a lot of insecurities and probably sees you as more confident than her and the comments are an effort to drag you down so maybe she feels better about herself if she can make someone else feel worse. I know this is evil of me, but I'd probably take pleasure in watching her come to the realization that people don't see her the way she wants to be seen.

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