The Hottie paradox

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The Hottie paradox
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Fri, 01-13-2012 - 5:40pm

No matter how much people say they are looking for someone smart, who they can trust and laugh with, they have an unconscious desire to attain a sexually attractive partner — which applies both to men and women, at similar levels — the researchers found.

They even developed a quirky word test to figure out how important physical attraction is to a person, on an unconscious level.

"People will readily tell you what they value in a romantic partner," study researcher Eli Finkel, of Northwestern University, said in a statement. "But study after study shows that those preferences don't predict whom daters are actually attracted to when they meet flesh-and-blood partners. Now we can get under the hood with this quirky methodology to see what people actually prefer in live-interaction settings."

http://www.livescience.com/17798-women-sexually-attractive-partners.html

Goldfish

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 01-16-2012 - 10:27pm

Ditto! There's plenty of candy in the store, but for me to want to spend time with someone, he has to be goal-driven, professionally competent and intellectually a good match.

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Mon, 01-16-2012 - 9:10am
For me, the attraction when I was young (teenage years especially) was indeed looks. I admit that! But since then I have had huge crushes on both rather overweight guys, really thin and small guys, and not to mention guys that noone else really thought were attractive (as far as I understood it). I saw other things in them, like sense of humour, kindness etc, that after a litte while also made me think of them as really handsome and attractive when it comes to appearance. And that tendency has continued for me. :-) I agree with Florida, attraction (or beauty) is in the eye of the beholder!
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Sun, 01-15-2012 - 3:48pm

I agree with your last comment and want to add, that while someone who is attractive might draw me in, initially, it won't keep me around for the duration. There has to be more there than just a pretty face...

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Sun, 01-15-2012 - 12:23pm
There is a huge difference between thinking someone is attractive (using whichever standards you like) and being attracted to them. I could sit and rate pictures of people on how conventionally attractive they are, but I can't feel attracted to somone unless I have more to go on than simply what they look like.
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Sun, 01-15-2012 - 12:11pm

I think there are probably those people who almost everyone would consider traditionally beautiful or handsome, but not everyone likes the same types of people.

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Sun, 01-15-2012 - 8:40am

I also think that "attraction" is in the eye of the beholder. I have often been attracted to men who would not be considered traditionally handsome, but they were to me.

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Registered: 08-24-2006
Sun, 01-15-2012 - 1:29am
I'm really glad I made a choice to judge the people I date on factors other than appearance. There's a lot more to attraction and chemistry than what a person looks like, I've found out.
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Sat, 01-14-2012 - 10:18pm

There was a study done on a world wide basis.

Goldfish

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Sat, 01-14-2012 - 9:35pm

No kidding.