How to ask a guy out

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Registered: 09-27-2005
How to ask a guy out
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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 10:52am
ere is this really hot guy at the gym I go to and over the past two months we haven't exchanged anymore than "i think your really hot" looks. I have this feeling that he is into me b/c I see him watching me all the time and whenever I walk into one of the rooms or past him his face lights up and he smiles this great big smile. my dilemma is I need a date for a party on april 7th and I would really like to take him and of course go out with him before the party, but how do i start up a conversation with him? i know nothing about him except that he is hot. LOL i dont want it to seem like im desperate so what can i do or say that he knows im interested????? please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 6:30pm

Honestly, if he's interested he'll approach you as long as you're giving him the right signals- make eye contact, smile, say hi, etc.

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Registered: 08-13-2005
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 10:40am

Talk to him! Go next time you walk by him, instead of just looking at him, smile and say "hi, how's it going? good workout?" Make some contact with him other than just exchanging looks.
Hopefully that will spark some kind of conversation. From there, you can introduce yourself and ask him things like "how long have you been going to this gym?" and "how often do you get to work out?" - anything related to the gym. Keep the conversation short and sweet. Then the next time you see him, even if it's 5 minutes later, be sure to smile and say hi again. After that- if you see him the next day, ask him how his work day was and then ask where he works and little things like that.

Maybe on the 3rd conversation, about a week later, you can say something like "hey, i'm going to grab a smoothie after my workout, want to join me?" That would hopefully lead to you finding out if he's a)single and b)interested. If he says yes and you two sit down and have a smoothie (or whatever your gym has or otherwise a nearby coffee place), then you can talk more and at the end of it, you can ask him if he'd like your number. And well, that would be a start to you eventually asking him to be your date for the party.

Anyway, that's what I would do in that situation. Just remember that shyness will get you nowhere and if you just speak up and be friendly then nothing bad can come of that. If he turns out to be a jerk, then at least you know not to waste your time eyeing him up anymore.

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Registered: 02-05-2005
Sat, 03-11-2006 - 2:51pm
JUST ASK HIM OUT. Tell him you have noticed he watches you and seems to light up when you are near him. ask him if you are right in thinking that he likes you and would like to get to know you better. IF he says yes...just plum ask him for a coffee date and then for that april 7th party. Tell him you don't want to be alone there and you also would liek to get to know him. Sometimes we women have to make that first move. IF ya don't ...he may look elsewear. Good luck. Toss the Dr. phil Dating 101 questions at him.