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How to ask someone out
| Sat, 03-11-2006 - 11:46pm |
I haven't dated anyone for like 7 months and it's starting to get to me. But I haven't been having any luck on match.com (my usual method) lately. There are a couple guys in my classes I think are cute, but how do you ask one out? I've never asked out anyone in real life.

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Oh, I knew the guys too...and I would speculate that's part of why they didn't feel comfortable just turning me down. So I realized after this happened enough times that if he'd really been interested, he would have asked me out in the first place...he had plenty of opportunities, after all!
And just to be clear, I'm not "against" a woman asking a guy out, I just don't think it's effective or necessary.
I do agree with your bottom line conclusion about being comfortable with whatever roles we choose.
Sheri
What does that mean? Don't know except to be patient and have faith.
Something I've been telling myself for a while now.
I had never asked a guy out before. I've always flirted with them and they took bait. I only asked one out before and he said yes but it led no where.
So even if you ask, sometimes all you'll get is just one date as opposed to a relationship and that's that.
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>>I had never asked a guy out before. I've always flirted with them and they took bait.<<
That is so charming!
I'm very shy myself but like you said, I'd practice smiling at people and just making conversation.
I'd find that when I'd smile, they'd return the smile and more often, stop to make conversation because you have created an ease with them.
I think this is the best way to go with a man. After the smile and conversation, then you can step it up a bit and flirt a little. That should open the door for them to ask you out or atleast for your number.
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