How can I come back from a BAD MOVE!?

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Registered: 09-19-2006
How can I come back from a BAD MOVE!?
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Mon, 12-10-2007 - 12:45pm

Ugh so i finally meet a nice/cute/funny guy at a Christmas party this weekend. A friend of a friend so he is not totally random and we hit it off dancing and having such a good time. Then we went home together and I slept with him. NOW I am thinking BAD MOVE!

In the morning he was so nice to me and did get my number but since I already gave it up how can I make a classier come back and turn this into something real? I mean typically this type of behavior is not going to earn the respect i would expect. Or is it rash to think all guys would react the same way and write me off?

Thoughts?

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Registered: 06-08-2006
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 2:11pm


>Or is it rash to think all guys would react the same way and write me off?<

If this guy's is really interested, he will not bolt just because you slept together. However, if it really was just a one night stand, chalk it up to lesson learned and don't beat yourself up about it.

Good luck,

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Registered: 07-13-2007
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 3:31pm

I cant speak for every man, but you would be fine with me. (-: Kind of stupid to penalize a person for WANTING to be with you. LoL


Next time you see him over dinner or whatever. . .I don't normally . .. little embarrassed . .. you know the drill. (-: He might be worried about the same things and what YOU are thinking. (-: Talk it out, be yourself . .. if he was as good as you think it wont matter. If he judges your behavior any differently than he does his own then why would you want to waste your time anyway

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Registered: 10-09-2007
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 6:35pm

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Registered: 10-31-2007
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 10:04pm

Update us on what happened!!! Don't beat yourself up about it. I would give it some time and see if he calls and if he does when you go out on a date, I would say that's not your usual MO and if he wants to hang out with you, he's going to have to get to know you. If he doesn't call, I would call him. He might think it will lead to a night of sex but you will show him instead, that there are much better ways to get to know you and hopefully you'll have a great date and can get back on track.

Kay
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Registered: 09-19-2006
Thu, 12-13-2007 - 2:15pm

Kay:
Thank you for your reply! I was thinking along the same lines. So the boy called me yesterday at just about 5pm and said he looked forward to talking to me and left a cute message. I waited until I got home to call him back and no answer but I left a short voicemail. So I am hoping this will open it up post hook up to make something of it. I feel like we did have a great connection and since he called me I think he is interested in seeing me again too so I am optimistic at this point!

I will update further as it progresses!

~diva