How can I improve what I am doing?

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Registered: 09-18-2005
How can I improve what I am doing?
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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 11:59pm

This guy knows how much I want him but he won't give me the time or day. My friends say I have to act like I'm not interested in him. So when I see him, I try to ignore him. When he pokes me, grabs me, etc I ignore him and act like he's not doing it. When he hugs me, I don't touch him to hug him back. But when I see him with other females I get so upset bc he shows so much more interest in them than in me and that even if I do ignore him (or play hard to get) it won't work. But he is known for wanting to chase girls and work for them. I also think it's too late bc in the beginning I showed to much interest...what can I do to improve what I am doing?

Then some have told me to just throw myself at him (which in the past has never worked). It seems like now that I don't stare at him and smile at him, since I don't go up to him to speak to him first, since I don't hug on him...he pays more attention to me.

I'm so confused

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 02-09-2006 - 7:27am

What's so great about him that makes you want him so badly?

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Thu, 02-09-2006 - 9:29am

It seems to me like he's just playing a game with you. Have you taken the time to ask yourself why you're so intent on dating this guy? What do you really know/like about him?

I'm with Shy, I wouldn't ever count on him asking you out. It sounds like he's content with flirting with everyone and getting what he wants that way.