How To Catch A Man and Keep Him

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
How To Catch A Man and Keep Him
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 7:49am

Okay folks;

I have found out the way to catch a man and keep him. Let me explain.

Me and my sis met a guy two years ago at salsa dancing.. He is in his forties and used to live on Long Island. He went back to Pa. to live with his mom because he cant afford NY.. and he had

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 9:58am

Wow, sounds like a great catch!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 10:13am

I am not sure if this is what is going to happen but I see the writing on the wall so far.. so we shall see.

Actually they have kind of dated according to her timeline because we used to see him once a week at salsa and she has seen him on and off once or twice or three times in the last two years. Oh; and they have been talking on email and sending letters and talking on phone.

So what is the problem?? Isnt that dating?

Oh; correction.. He lives upstate NY and not Pa...So he is closer and can visit here anytime.. (fun fun)

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 11:30am
In other words, you've just gotta be desperate. Very, very desperate!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-04-2007
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 11:37am


Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 11:45am

ha ha

I think I meant this as true and also a joke..

I moved in with my sis when I lost my job and now I love the area so much I dont want to leave but the prices for apts. around here are sky high.

Sis owns the house and me and her support ourselves and I give her rent money.

No, I am not sure he is going to move in but she always picks these types and drags them home ... (lol) so who knows??

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 7:57pm

Oh what if the genders were different?


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 8:20pm

I am not sure if my intent was to separate genders .. I think my post was about how my sis gets her men..and it was a joke to some extent. Sorry if you took it the wrong way.

But yes I would think that someone who is an adult would take some responsibility for their lives whether it be looking for work or working or raising kids or contributing something ..and not sponge off others even if they got state aid atleast it would be contributing something..

I think everyone can contribute somehow in their own way whether it be money or time or whatever.. I just cant seem to wrap my head around dead beats or contribute nothing and are takers.

This salsa guy has no job, doesnt look for a job, has to pay child support, has no intentions of getting anywhere at all even if its a menial job. He has nothing and no goals or direction and he has been like this for the three years I have known him..

sis's last alcoholic byfriend did nothing. He didnt clean , cook, shop, do the yardwork, help around the house..or contribute money.. All he did was lay around and drink, not work,