How to change a lousy dating attitude?
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How to change a lousy dating attitude?
| Fri, 03-10-2006 - 10:43pm |
For reasons I can't put my finger on, my interest in dating and finding a relationship at this point of time is almost non-existent and I'm having a hard time figuring out why. I'm 28 and have up until this point wanted someone to have a long-term relationship with leading to marriage but lately, I've stopped wanting that. I haven't had a boyfriend in a year but have managed to go out with a handful of jerks and losers in the last couple of years and I guess I sort of feel burned out from being hurt and disappointed. I also find that I get resentful of men who are too interested in me in the beginning and feel like they're trying to pin me down in a relationship too soon. I guess that being out of a relationship for some time, I've grown comfortable with being single and having my freedom and I think I've also raised my standards considerably. For example, I won't go out with men who are not my physical type because I feel resentful of them since I feel like there's women out there who are dating my physical type. I feel like every guy who likes me or I have something in common with is not my type physically and therefore I'm not physically attracted to him. I'm also on a dating site but think I should remove my profile because I don't feel motivated to meet the men who contact me or even email back and forth with them. I want to have an optimistic dating attitude but I feel so jaded from past dating experiences and resentful of men in general that I don't know how to change. It also doesn't help that I've gone through several simultaneous transitions in my life recently and I guess I'm stressed out because of all those changes. Do you think this is just a phase that will pass or does it sound like something I have to work hard on to change?

I'm pretty ambivalent about dating at the moment too.