How do I approach a Fling Situation

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How do I approach a Fling Situation
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Sat, 03-31-2012 - 9:42pm

Hey Guys;

Remember that guy I met at that wedding I went to last week? Well?He friended me on facebook and we were chatting today. He started the chat

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Sat, 03-31-2012 - 11:03pm
If he asks your age just laugh and say something like...oh, you know you aren't supposed to ask a woman how old she is...or you could always say 29.

It all depends on how you want to approach it. If you are approaching it like you have nothing else to lose, I'd just ask if he wants to meet you for drinks then just see where the night takes you.

If you want to let him take control, then just do everything you can to let him know you are into him...do everything except come right out and ask him out. Flirt with him. I know you know how to flirt, Free...come on, now.

Do you know where he lives? You could also tell him that you'll be in the area on X day at X time and see if he takes the bait...

Don't get hung up on the age thing...7 years is nothing.
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Sun, 04-01-2012 - 8:22am

Hmmmmm very good ideas you have there and yes would like to approach it as if I have nothing to lose.. but I have only met him once and he seemed like one of those guys who you have to hit over the head to let him think you are interested.. Not sure if he is the just came out and be honest type..cause that is my usual MO (lol)

Yes; I know where he lives and its about l/2 hour away from me..and he works about a half hour away from me.. and how weird is this ? His sister lives about 8 blocks away from where I live..

I do have a good opportunity coming up . You see his birthday is the day before mine. Mine is April 22 and I could use that to ask him if he wants to celebrate or something but everytime I have asked a guy out it usually backfires on me..

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Sun, 04-01-2012 - 11:55am

That's the thing about putting yourself out there - there's always the possibility of rejection.

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Sun, 04-01-2012 - 12:31pm

Maybe you could just be vague and say "in my 50's" or something like that.

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Sun, 04-01-2012 - 12:46pm

oh; when we were talking at the wedding funny thing we went to the same HS except he told me what year he graduated