how do I help my daughter with this one?

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how do I help my daughter with this one?
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Mon, 07-02-2007 - 7:49pm
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Edited 7/10/2007 10:13 am ET by elwood1960

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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 3:19pm
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Edited 7/10/2007 10:21 am ET by elwood1960
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 3:05am

"The truth is she would eat J for lunch."


I'm having trouble seeing where this would be a bad thing.


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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 3:14am

"Mark, I think with age we just get a bit more . . . simple. (-: No games."


I agree. I am a lot more simple (not stupid) than I was when I was younger. I put up with a lot more then... I used to wonder why my ex always paid his rent in cash - he kept a lockbox with valubles in it...


... now my motto is "life's too short to drink cheap wine" (or be tactful in some cases)


Your daughter needs to dig her Doc Maartens out of ther closet, blow off the dust and kick J to the curb... HARD.


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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 10:29am
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Edited 7/10/2007 10:22 am ET by elwood1960
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 10:46am

You might want to (if you have not already) try the Toxic Relationships board to get insight, advice, and support.

Check Wikipedia under Abusive Relationships or the library for books on this subject.

This may help you and/or your daughter on J.

I think of families who don't drink but who are living with alcoholics and how they are affected. They have those Al-Anon groups to help them cope and understand. I wonder if there are similar groups for those affect by those family members in a abusive relationships?

Take care,
Mark

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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 12:50pm

Wow. Hadn't you already told her that J was not welcome in your house (I thought I saw that earlier in this thread)? So what was she doing bringing him there against your express indication that he was not to be there? If she's going to stay with you, she needs to respect you and your house rules.

You need to be careful of crossing the line between helping and enabling.

Sheri

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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:12pm
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Edited 7/10/2007 10:23 am ET by elwood1960

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