how do u tell someone u like them.....

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Registered: 03-24-2007
how do u tell someone u like them.....
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Sat, 07-07-2007 - 1:45am
hello everyone,
i just got out of a four year relationship due to a lot of things. we live together and then i move out n i move back home. as we move away, i also transfer job. its been about 9 months that we were apart n those 9 months apart we broke up probably 10 times. officially i ended up breaking up with him. about a 2 months ago we broke up cuz i started liking someone. than the guy i like ended up hooking with my friend. but the main point of this story is that i started liking my co worker who's my deparment manager. his name is ben n he's a really nice guy. his mom also works at the same place n i get along well with her also. right now im in the process of training for management. ben n i r starting to talk more than just at work. we talk when we arent working. he's like the geek guy who's into things that im not, but i find things about him that i like. im afraid of telling him that i like him and then all of sudden odd things starts to happen. so do i just leave it be or make a move and c if anything would happen. obvisiouly its fast for me to move on, but im done trying to work things out with my ex n i want to move on. ben will not be a rebound guy. i honestly like him a lot, but just dont know how to go about it. he hasnt had a gf in a while thats wat his mom say cuz his first love broke his heart. so if anyone could help me please let me know wat to do. thank you.
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Registered: 08-16-2005
Sat, 07-07-2007 - 10:03am
I wouldn't say anything until he's NOT your department manager. It's inappropriate. Until you are both on level playing fields, you say you are training to be a manager, does that mean you wouldn't be under his supervision??? If that's the case then I would wait until that happens otherwise it wouldn't be a good idea to date someone that is essentially a "boss" once you two are 'coworkers' just ask him out for drinks I think he'll get the hint you "like him" from there I dont' think you have to go so far as passing him a note or anything with I like you on it.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 03-24-2007
Sat, 07-07-2007 - 11:30am
I kinda figure that it wouldnt b right for me to just tell him when we r not on the same level of field. The training im getting is for a support management position above him, but its only once a week. otherwise, yea i'll b under his supervision unless i got out of that deparment, but he'll still b one level up from me. Ben's been pushing me to b an deparment manager, but everytime i try, i guess im not good enough even though i have the experience. but i no he doesnt want me to leave the department also. i have invited him a few times to go for drinks, but he says that he doesnt know my crowd n i tell him that its ok, cuz i hardly no anybody since i move into this town. he is 3 years older than me. but hopefully he'll get the hint eventually that i do like him. cuz with my luck, i've always dated somebody who i've been friends with first. n its been a pattern for all my past relationships from wat one of my gf says anyway. if it doesnt work out, we will always be friends. thank you for the advice.
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Registered: 08-16-2005
Sat, 07-07-2007 - 1:38pm
Maybe he isn't interested if you've invited him out a few times and he's declined maybe he's just not that interested in going out with you. Sorry to say.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 07-12-2007
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 7:03pm

Hey There.

A Married Mans Opinion (20s). Well lets see. I think what you wrote at the beginning of your post had a lot to do with this. It seems you haven't moved on from your ex. The past should be to learned from not recalled to just remember.

Should i tell him i like him? No Way. A man has to always be the first one to do initiation. You shouldn't have to do a thing. You can flirt of course and drop hints...but dont go put yourself out there and say you like him. Makes it too easy for the guy hahaha. Yea, i personally prefer the challenge. Many of my lady friends have always told me the same thing too.

Good luck with him. =) Take Care.