How do you fight the lonely blues?

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Registered: 12-19-2001
How do you fight the lonely blues?
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Sun, 07-07-2013 - 7:21pm

I'm usually pretty busy and don't think to much about the fact that I'm alone.  But lately I've been getting pretty depressed over my lack of a love life.....especially on the weekends. I've tried the dating sites but no luck, mostly a bunch of players and losers, which a related subject will be my next post! 

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Sun, 07-07-2013 - 7:30pm

It's funny you bring this up because I posted the same thing a couple of weeks ago.  Not that it makes you feel any better, but I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels the same way.

Sometimes we get lonely on the weekends.  During the work week we are busy, busy, busy because (I think) are minds are focused.  We're too busy during the work week to allow our minds to go idle.  And then when the weekend comes around, things slow down & we start to think.  Which is why I try to keep myself busy even on the weekends.

I've tried the OLD but I too, have not had luck with it.  I've tried, but OLD just isn't for me.  The ones I've come across want me as an "instant mom" to their kids or they want sex on demand.  And well, if you don't comply, they will just move on to the next girl who will.  Sure, I could do one night stands....if I wanted to.  But that's not me.  And no disrespect to those who are into one night stands & FWB's.  

I just recently went to meetup.com to find groups in my area.  There's some pretty cool meet up groups out there.  I'm a bit outdoorsy and adventerous so I joined a local hiking group on there.  Once I'm officially over this food poisoning ordeal, I may join them for a hike next Monday evening after work.  If you do decide to go to the meetup.com site, you'll see it's a cool way to meet new people and make new friends.  

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 07-08-2013 - 12:04pm

I agree with wishful and you could look at her last post for ideas.  I used to get lonely on the weekends cause I had nothing to do--I'd wander around the malls and get very bored.  So I made an effort to find friends more than to find a boyfriend.  I figure at age 55, maybe I won't ever find a boyfriend so I better figure out how to enjoy my life if I am going to be single.  Now I am so busy on the weekends with friends that i don't have time to be lonely.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 07-08-2013 - 2:09pm

Hi;

I am blessed and pretty fortunate in that although I feel lonely at times and without a partner I live in a community where there is alot to do.. So if I just walk out the door I run into neighbors and people who are just there so it does ease the lonliness. I also live with my sis and there is always something to do so most of the time I am not lonely.. I also find that I am my own best friend at times also...

I have though gone to meet up groups and keep as busy as I can lately as not to dwell on what I dont have.

Oh; and when I go see friends or go to meet ups I will run into the same people over and over so that makes it a bit better...and have even exchanged phone numbers with some people who will talk on phone or just meet and go out ...