How do you handle your guy's pervy bud
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How do you handle your guy's pervy bud
| Thu, 12-07-2006 - 11:50am |
I recently read the book BarCode: Your Pocket Decoder to the Modern Dating Scene. First of all, HILARIOUS!!!! (They have a website barcodethebook.com). A must for singles and marrieds alike. I know everyone in this book. Heck I AM some of the characters in this book. Amazingly funny. They have a term for everything. And this particular one I can totally identify with, I am sad to say. The Pest Friend, he's your boyfriends childhood best friend who refuses to grow up and is hell-bent your man won't either. My boyfriend of 2 years has one of these. Just like the book says he drinks all the beer and guzzles the good wine. My boyfriend's Pest Friend comments on everyone's "rack" at parties (loudly) and he has even grabbed me from behind and tried to kiss my neck when my boyfriend wasn't around. He drops by unannounced and always has the latest issue of Penthouse in tow. He is constantly pleading for a guys' night (which means stripclub) and blames me for "not letting" my boyffriend go. I can't stand this guy, but looks like he's with us for good. How do I handle this guy? Urgh.

Well first off, I would be incredibly vocal when he tries to kiss or touch you, even if he's just 'having fun'. Don't worry about being 'nice'. If you're at a party and he grabs your butt I would loudly say "Please do not grab my butt Bill"...and if your bf is around he should overhear this. Eventually he'll stop harassing you in a physical manner although I'm sure he'll always annoy the crap outta you.
Guys are incredibly loyal to those annoying childhood friends. I would just keep your distance as much as possible...there's no reason for the three of you to hang out. If your bf wants to do a guys night with him, than fine. It's your bf's decision on what 'crosses the line' as far as activities, like a stripclub. If you and the bf have decided that stripclubs don't have a place in your relationship then he'll relay this to his bud. However if it's 'okay' than don't sqwak too much when they want to go.
This guy is your bf's friend, not yours. Limit your exposure to him as much as possible and if your bf starts to ask why let him know. As long as your understanding about his relationship with his buddy he won't get upset and will probably take your feelings into consideration more.
Good luck!