How do you know when you're lonely?

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How do you know when you're lonely?
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Mon, 04-21-2008 - 10:12pm

When I start thinking about ex boyfriends, that's when I know I'm lonely.

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Tue, 04-22-2008 - 12:05pm

I don't really think about exes specifically anymore, but I do remember what it felt like to be comfortable in a relationship. It usually hits me on those Saturday nights when I didn't get around to planning an evening out and I find myself at home watching movies.


Couples in the grocery store get me, too -- it's usually when I see a cute guy come around the corner and I get all ready to smile and be cute, and then his wife or girlfriend comes around the corner right behind him. D'oh.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Tue, 04-22-2008 - 1:53pm

I got triggered yesterday in dance.


Two of the dancers, both of them much younger than I, were talking about their impending marriage or bf.


I felt lonely after that.

Soliel
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Tue, 04-22-2008 - 2:53pm
Hmmm....ya know, I don't think I ever get lonely.

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Tue, 04-22-2008 - 3:23pm

I hugged a professor once.

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Tue, 04-22-2008 - 6:47pm

I know I am lonely when I want to get out of the house and do something, and can't find someone who wants/is available to hang out and do something fun.

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Tue, 04-22-2008 - 8:17pm
Loneliness is an attitude, just like happiness. You could be with the SO of your dreams and still be lonelier than you have ever been.

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Wed, 04-23-2008 - 7:17am

Oh yes, I hate it when the girlfriend or wife comes around the corner!

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Wed, 04-23-2008 - 7:19am
It's so hard to find someone to do things with, especially on short notice.
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Wed, 04-23-2008 - 8:48pm

I don't know where those single people are either!


I did make some dinner plans for next Wed, and drink plans for next Thurs.

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Registered: 04-13-2008
Thu, 04-24-2008 - 9:33am

Hi Hillary,


I totally agree. Being lonely is a mental state of mind whereas being alone is a physical state. It is much easier to hide your loneliness in a relationship.


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