How do you manage negative people?

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
How do you manage negative people?
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Fri, 04-27-2012 - 6:16pm
I work with someone- I've posted about her before- who is just about the most negative person I've ever met. She jumps to the absolute worst conclusion in every situation, whereas I typically try to find the most positive one I can without being ridiculous. For example, today our principal emailed asking if we wanted a particular workbook for next year. We were supposed to discuss and let her know. So I asked her at lunch if she wanted it. She immediately took her nasty. "the world is out to get me" tone and said something along the lines of "they just want to save money and make US spend more time making copies. She doesn't care about us or the time we will have to spend." I felt attacked just for asking. She pretty much responds that way every time I talk to her, so I avoid talking to her. She also speaks very condescendingly about certain kids in her class on a regular basis. It's obvious she really isn't enjoying her job.

So how do you respond to that kind of stuff? I've tried saying "What makes you think that" when she jumps to ridiculous conclusions. I've tried switching the subject. I've tried just flat out calling her out when she's rude to me. Yet nothing changes and she's almost making it a hostile work environment. Would you go to the boss? I'm really not sure what I want to do next. I have to work with her, so not speaking to her isn't an option. My boss knows there's friction, but I don't think she knows how bad it really is.
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 04-28-2012 - 8:25am

She's probably not a bad person, she's just stuck in her own head and is having trouble escaping :)

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 8:36pm
I definitely feel my blood pressure rise when she's around! I've been going in on Sunday afternoons to get everything ready for the week. It's quiet (although creepy) and I can be more focused. One Sunday, I heard someone else open the door and hoped it wasn't her. When I saw it was her, I could immediately feel myself tense up. She talks about me behind my back, too. No one really likes to hang around her, so she doesn't have much of an audience for that, though.

She has three more years until she retires. Three more years...three LONG years...
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Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 8:28pm

Well? This is a tough one since you have to work with her and speak to her.. I would probably not have conversations that mean too much with her.. She sounds like one of those energy vampires.. The people who drain you and you are like reaching and reaching to give input or talk or whatever and they continue on with the negative stuff. Energy vampires are very draining so be careful.

I would try and limit the time with her if you cant not be around her at all.. Dont give her any space in