How do you "not look" for love?
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|Mon, 07-07-2003 - 1:00am|
So, how so you not look for love? It seems everyone wants some sort of romantic relationship, whether it be a long term relationship, casual dating, etc. It's such an important part of most people's lives, including my own, how am I suppose to not look for it. I always seem to be conscious of the men around me. I enjoy going out to meet guys and flirt a little. It makes the evening just a little more exciting.
I by no means have my entire life figured out, I am only 23 after all. I do feel that I have a good grasp on it and know what I want. I have my career all lined up, good friends and family, but I'm not even close to finding a desirable man. I know what I want, I'm just not finding it, maybe because I'm looking for it. Maybe I'm trying too hard instead of just letting it happen.
I don't think I'm too picky either. He has to love children since I'm a teacher. I want him to be attractive to me, but he doesn't have to be a super model. He has to be open minded. There has to be chemistry, so there must be some level of attraction. Athletic/outdoor-sy might be nice since that's where a lot of my interests lie. Fun, attentive, compassionate,....you get the idea. I have a good idea of what I am looking for based on who I have dated.
It seems like my life is pretty much on the track I would like it to be, except for this issue. Am I going about this all wrong? Do I quit consciously looking for someone? And if that's the answer, how do I stop?