How hard is it NOT to be cynical! (long)
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| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 5:11am |
OK So I had arranged a date with a guy I met online I have been talking to him 4 months via yahoo so what can be wrong right?? He seemed like a decent guy, cute, funny, smart, same values and believed the same stuff I did. Last month towards the end of October he was like let me take you to dinner Friday. I work in politics and October is crunch time and there was a big dinner that Friday so I am like I can't do it this Friday I have to attend a dinner for my boss. He was like ok and the next weekend I was going back to visit my family back east so I compromised the Friday after the election. He agreed.
Date was set, no time no place but I thought once it got closer we would figure that out. I return from visiting my family. And everyday since our agreement of our date he was After going out every night that week (I also sit on some political boards) I am like Friday will be nice and relaxing and I get to talk to someone new. Living in San Francisco its already difficult to find a straight guy, so I thought what the hell. I didn't tell my mother. She is a big blabber mouth. I told my best friends Mitch and Jeremy they said if he turned out creepy they would come and save me.
Friday comes no message. Around 5 o'clock I text my friend mitch to tell him I dont think it was happening tonight he felt bad. But I think it gets better because the boy hasn't contacted me at all. Not apologizing for not contacting me, I thought this guy was really into me with how much we talked and everything I guess not.
I am trying not to be bitter but I am. The whole love thing is not for me I think. My last boyfriend I broke up with in May of 2005 because I was moving to San Francisco. Then he turned into a pompous jerk writing a blog about me saying "I cant accept her lifestyle" Since when does moving to a city where you can be who you are turns you gay? At least that is what everyone says to me when I tell them about it.
Alas, I am better off with my 2 friends Jeremy and Mitch and my cat. I feel that I am going to turn into that weird crazy cat lady in the neighborhood if I cannot stop being cynical soon.

I'm going to guess the guy was unavailable: ie married.
Instead of being cynical about one guy, you could try looking at it from the perspective of, you ignored a big red flag and talked to him for way too long before meeting, and decide not to repeat that mistake next time around.
Talking online is easy. If a guy is really serious about wanting to start a relationship, he's not going to want to do the endless email thing, he'll want to actually MEET you in person after you exchange a couple emails.
Sheri