How to keep him interested

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Registered: 12-20-2011
How to keep him interested
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Tue, 12-20-2011 - 10:39pm

Last week I met this guy when I went out for my friend's birthday.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2011
Tue, 12-27-2011 - 4:04pm

Lol, I am voting with the women on this one. Maybe its a generational thing, but I want a man to take on the traditional role (up to a point anyway) and ask me out, and pay for dinner. The only time I paid for dinner was when my bf met me and my kids at a restaurant, I didn;t ithink it was fair for him to pay for my kids.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-12-2005
Mon, 12-26-2011 - 6:49pm

I'm not a woman who takes the initiative with men. I also kind of think that if the guy doesn't show interest after spending some time with you and you being friendly with him, then he's either not interested (yet ?) or doesn't have confidence in himself (personally, I simply can't get interested in men who are too shy).

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sun, 12-25-2011 - 9:13pm
You are only supporting what I've said, Mr. 3xes. If a guy isn't asking a woman he's interested in out because he's "damaged" then he isn't emotionally available for a relationship.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 12-25-2011 - 1:52pm

Yes,he may be "damaged" and needs time to heal.

dragowoman

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 12-25-2011 - 11:50am

He asks everyone to dance--we always have more unpartnered women than men so the men are good about taking turns w/ everyone.

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 12-24-2011 - 5:11pm

Ask him to coffee.

dragowoman

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 12-23-2011 - 6:21pm

My friend was saying a similar thing to me recently.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Fri, 12-23-2011 - 9:47am

Shy wrote:

"Most men will say they love it when a woman asks him out, but the truth is they really mean that they love it when a woman they are interested in asks them out.

dragowoman

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Fri, 12-23-2011 - 1:33am
musiclover12 wrote:

I think it's funny that the 2 men are saying "ask the guy out" but most women (not just shy) wil say "oh no, if a man likes you, he'll ask you out."

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Thu, 12-22-2011 - 2:53pm
For what it's worth...I just happened to have your post pulled up when my single, 42 year old brother called to get some Xmas shopping ideas for various relatives. I asked his opinion. He said that he's not put off by it. He said the only problem would arise when a woman asks, who he's not interested in which, women are faced with that situation all the time. Anyway, I thought you might appreciate one more man's POV.

If I were to weigh in, I'd say some guys will dig it and some guys might be turned off by it...Whether you decide to take the gamble is your choice but good luck and please let us know how it works out!

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