How long do I wait?
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How long do I wait?
| Tue, 01-09-2007 - 5:34pm |
Okay here's a question:
How long should you wait if a guy has just broken up with a long time girlfriend before starting to flirt with him and making it apparent you are interested?
I had a huge crush on new friend until I found out he had a girlfriend. So, I kept things purely platonic, as I never flirt with attached men, ever! I just found out that they broke up before Christmas and he moved out.
How long do I wait before I make it apparent I like him? Several months, a year? I don't want to be the rebound girl and I don't want to lose a friend or make things uncomfortable.
Is there a set time to wait before making a move? And if so, girls, how long should I wait? Don't want to miss out as well. He is an amazing guy.

Immediately.
I've had my hearts broken by girls before, but still, I would have been happy and open to advances from other girls right afterwards.
I think that if a guy is interested in you, it won't matter how long it's been since a breakup before he'll date you.
I think I'm more and definitely happier to wait several months. He isn't himself and I don't want to put pressure on him of any kind, he's far too sweet.
I think a minimum of 3 months, I was thinking 4 in the first instance. I'm happy being his friend and was happy that way before... happy to continue being so. Time will tell, and of course if it's meant to be... if he is interested I'm sure things will eventually progress. But, I don't want to be a rebound and I don't want to be a mistake of any kind. And if I do go there, I want it to last.
Thanks for all your advice guys and girls. Really appreciate it. I'm going to go with my gut and wait. Never let me down before.