How long is long enough?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
How long is long enough?
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Sat, 10-08-2005 - 8:05pm

I have been dating this guy, K, for about a month now. We work together, but different departments. We had seen each other in passing for 7 months and both had crushes on each other, but never knew the other was interested. Last month he approached me and we have been almost inseparable ever since. We spend A LOT of time together (I have my own tooth brush at his apartment--he bought it). We get along really well and genuinely enjoy spending time with each other. We decided a couple of weeks ago that we would be exclusive, but not b/f/g/f. Yesterday I brought up how I would like to take this to the next level (b/f/g/f) and he said he was surprised to hear me say that and he had thought about it too...But that's where the conversation ended. What does this mean? By every definition we are b/f/g/f just without the title. He even dvr's my favorite shows when I'm not there! ;-) And I know there's no other woman, because we are almost always together...He wouldn't have time to be with anyone else. Is 1 month too soon to expect a relationship? Should I just wait it out? For how long? Should I wait for him to bring it up, or do it myself again? Any advice would be great!

~Stacy~

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Sat, 10-08-2005 - 10:04pm

I think that if you have a toothbrush at his apartment, you get the title.

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Sat, 10-08-2005 - 11:25pm

Yeah...that's how I feel too. But he's not ready to use the title. So do I just give him time? Btw, I know his last girlfriend really burned him...

~Stacy~

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Sun, 10-09-2005 - 11:44am

Honestly?