How long should I wait?

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Registered: 09-09-2005
How long should I wait?
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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 3:33pm
I've been out with this guy three times. he seems genuinely cool and into me. He calls when he says he will, he sends me messages about how he can't wait to see me even though he is busy at school. We haven't done the deed yet - how long is it normal to wait. I met him about two weeks ago? Any guys out there have any suggestions? I don't want to come across as a tease or anything but I don't want him to think I'm easy. I'm also in my late 20's so I'm over the game playing b.s. I feel like if I want to I should be able to, but this is all new to me. Help?
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Mon, 10-17-2005 - 3:42pm
Two weeks, huh? I would wait, wait as long as you possibly can. I would give it at least a month. When guys just want one thing, they're willing to wait a month. Even guys who are into you, if you do the deed too quickly, it can make it weird and they'll change their mind about you. There is never a length of time that is universal to each person, so I guess you have to rely on your gut feelings. But the longer you wait, the better the outcome. This is from experience.
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Registered: 06-22-2005
Mon, 10-17-2005 - 4:19pm

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It depends on what type of relationship you are looking for. If you are looking for a casual relationship than go for it why wait any longer but if you are looking to find a meaningful relationship than I would wait longer until you find out what his true intentions are.

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Registered: 09-09-2005
Mon, 10-17-2005 - 4:38pm
Thanks! Both responses were very helpful. Yeah, I guess most guys will wait around for a month and if not, they aren't worth it.
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Registered: 01-28-2004
Mon, 10-17-2005 - 5:08pm
2 weeks..has hepushed for it yet?I am sure he has..if not then well there is a problem..because guys are gonna want it right away..i am not like that and i don`t jump inot bed with a guy soon...but this is relaity..men don`t want to wait