How long should we wait???
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| Wed, 01-25-2006 - 4:27pm |
I haven't had sex in nearly 9 months and recently started online dating. I have gone out with four or five guys...all duds. Chemistry issues, phantom ghosts, etc. I've met this great guy, he's a gentlemen, down to earth, read to get married, have babies etc. We even had the sex talk last night, I asked him to have an HIV test taken before we were to engage in sex and he said ok. We have been on four official dates and I believe I started talking to him seriously the Friday before the MLK holiday weekend. We met on Match.com, he had sent me e-mails and I didn't respond to a few but he continued to write, come to find out we take the same commuter train home from work and he had seen me a year ago and was very attracted to me, his words. Well at any rate we are dating and I am ready...really ready to take it to the next step. Am I acting out too soon? We would be doing the deed by late February early March.
Tina



This might be NONE of my business - if so, just say so... but did you just loose a baby? I think it's very courageous of you to already be thinking about sex if that's the case.
I think it's the right time to have sex whenever it feels right - it feels right to me right now, but I don't have anyone around!? LOL
 
WOW - you are an inspiration! I can't even say enough about the faith and hope you must have. May God be with, and greatly BLESS, you!
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I agree with Jules. Its whenver you are both ready for it.
Rubyshoes
You describe in your posts that you're looking for a man who wants the same things you do (relationship, marriage, family, etc.). So, as long as you and the man you're dating see things the same way and have the same goals, I don't think there's a set timeline for when you should or should not be having sex. What matters is that it's the right decision for you at the right time and you feel safe (both phsically and emotionally).