How long since your last date?

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Registered: 10-25-2005
How long since your last date?
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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 1:50pm

Hi! I'm new here. I stumbled on this board today while searching for an article or thread about how long the average woman (or man) goes between dates or relationships. Since I couldn't find any information, I thought I'd start a thread on that topic.

Here's my story: I'm educated, employed, and my friends tell me I'm pretty -- but it's been three and a half years since my last traditional date and about two years since my last blind date. I live in the only metro area in my very rural, very southern state. Around here people tend to marry in or just out of college so at 30+, the dating pool is tiny, to say the least. I'm not into the bar scene or the church scene so I'm stuck somewhere in the middle. My other single girlfriends seem to be in the same boat as me.

So how long has it been since your last date? Days? Months? Years? Any particular reason? I'm dying to know if anyone else is in a similar situation.

Thanks!

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 3:47pm
Hang in there. I live in Chicago and honestly, if I left it up to men to ask me out, I would be alone forever. Plus I have also gone years without dates. I am attractive, got my crap together so you would think it would not be that hard, right?? I think you have to make it happen. For example, I am Match.com and I have my pick of tons of men to go on dates with. My last date was last week. I guess if you put yourself out there in creaive ways, the guys will come. But I is common for women to go in tong spouts withouts dates, even in larger cities.....
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 11:10pm

It's been about a month since my last first date.

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Registered: 05-22-2005
Thu, 10-27-2005 - 4:47pm

I haven't been on a date since my ex and I broke up over the summer. And it's been a good two years since I've been out on a first date (the length of time my ex and I were together). I want to get back in and start meeting people again, but I just don't have the energy to do it! I've pretty much just concentrated on work the last couple months and spent time with friends and family.

But you're definitely not alone!!

Veena :-)

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Registered: 12-03-2003
Thu, 10-27-2005 - 7:47pm
You are not in this boat alone. To tell you the truth, I haven't been on a date in so long, I can't even remember the last time I was on a date. I was in a long term relationship and when nature ended it, I found myself in a world I am not familiar with...dating. I too live in a very, very, small town, thanks to my job and if I want a hint of civilization I have to head to NYC. Sadly, I don't know the whole club and bar scene so it's tough but I am looking to hopefully relocate very soon. Hang in there.
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Registered: 05-23-2005
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 12:01am
It's been almost two years since I've been on a date. I think I'm a catch, I'm smart, kind, sincere, caring, and I'm not self-absored. No one's asked me out except teenagers. I'm in my mid-twenties. Maybe it's this area. LOL it's a small town! However, I used to live in Atlanta and the dating scene there was brutal for me. I went on several "dates" but I usually didn't see/hear from the guy after the first date. I've got to change my strategy, but I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong.
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Registered: 07-21-2004
Mon, 10-31-2005 - 10:35am
I don't know if you'd call the last few times I spent with my ex-boyfriend "dates" (part of the reason I broke up with him).

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Registered: 07-10-2005
Mon, 10-31-2005 - 3:21pm

I have not been on a date in 4 yrs. I had a very close friend for 2 of those 4 years, but way back when was the last time I went on anything that resembled a date. I'm in the engineering field, I love my job, I live in a big city, but I'm too busy doing what I love I guess. I can drive an hour to the other side of town to look for THE pair of shoes......but I don't make an effort to look for someone. I don't feel the time is right I guess.

I'm doing what I want, when I want, with whom I want.......can't ask for anything more.

G